Submitted by ThrowRApleasehelpo t3_125fbrz in relationship_advice
Should I end things with my unemployed bf
Throwaway in case he sees this. I have been seeing a guy for the last 6 months and am starting to have doubts. I, (19) f met him, (24) m online through gaming. He is incredibly sweet, thoughtful and caring. However I am having doubts because he is unemployed and has no direction in life. He recently got kicked out of his moms house and is living with his dad, and I have tried to encourage him to get a job because he says he wants one but doesn’t want a job that would ruin his mental health (which I understand), however I feel he’s making excuses. I got him to apply to two different jobs and one asked for him to send his resume, and I asked if he did and he said he didn’t want it due to the hours. He says he wants a job but is doing nothing to get one, is not in school and I feel like expects the perfect, respectful job to fall into his lap. I however am going to school full time and work part time. I have aspirations to be a doctor and am pursuing the medical path, but it is disheartening because I am unsure if he’ll ever change. I care about him and he is so sweet, but I am also trying to be realistic. I feel like he doesn’t understand the effort I put into my everyday life and it seems he expects me to spend even more time with him, while also “working harder” in school although I already have straight A’s. I cut corners in sleeping and eating in order to make time for him, school, and work. All he does all day is sleep and play video games. He has no idea what job he wants or wants to do with his life. He worked at a store for about two weeks when we first met and quit without telling me, keeping up appearances that he was still working because he was too ashamed to tell me.What should I do? How do I communicate this to him without hurting his feelings? I feel at this point he is making excuses and doesn’t want the responsibility of being an adult. Should I leave or stay and hope he gets his life together? Please let me know your thoughts, thanks in advance.
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