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Both of you need to work on communication. Money is a tough topic for a lot of couples. You need to talk about it openly, honestly, and without getting angry at each other. Give him a little space and then time to have a talk about improving communication so that when you do disagree it doesn't become a huge problem, just an issue to work through together. Then together explore some resources on good communication in relationships, like this - you can find a lot with a few simple google searches:

https://www.healthline.com/health/lack-of-communication#signs-of-a-problem

It sounds like he knew you were upset and had an interview today so he wanted to let you sleep…..

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>which I already contributed little to as I struggled to organize my thoughts, and was really mostly him venting and brainstorming

You're already admitting that you didn't communicate with him because you struggled to organize your thoughts. That is not good communication.

You're 22, I don't think you should be relying on your boyfriend to wake you you up for your interview, you should be able to do that yourself.

He's possibly busy at work? Let him go through his day, maybe make him dinner for when he comes home and then talk to him during it.

One of the hardest things for me to learn was to give my wife time to process things her own way. I overthink while she is doing this, My mind fills in the blanks where I have no right to fill in yet until she is ready. I still do this to this day.

Sometime just leave that conversation alone for the time being and turn something more positive like a simple I love you, and as long as we are together, we will get thru it.

Support and remind your SO but let them process their own way.

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Its ok to just send a nice text, even if its to ask them to choose between two choices for dinner, or and other excuse to just let them know you care.

Just leave the topic alone until they are ready again. when Im waiting, I date my wife a little more, just to let her know no matter what, Im there

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