LhasaApsoSmile t1_ja8uye6 wrote
This is not your problem. This is hers. She needs to get into counseling. As you're at uni, there have to be free/cheap services on campus.
The only thing you can do is make sure that when you reach out to people is that you include her in the intro and the conversation. If something comes up in the conversation that she could comment on, direct the conversation towards her. And, is a walk accross campus a party or a chance for some one on one time with your gf?
LetsHaveFun_ok OP t1_ja8w5c8 wrote
I always try to introduce her and steer the convo her way. She told me after she doesn't appreciate that because she isn't a people's person..
When I thought it was safe to do so, I did ask if she wants to consider the counseling.. She said she doesn't know, but I'll talk to her, maybe go with her.
I'll try to spend more time with her on campus 1 on 1.
LhasaApsoSmile t1_ja900av wrote
Remember, you are not responsible for all this. She is not a people person, you are. I am not a people person but if I have to I can talk to anyone. This tooks decades.
The jealousy, ideation, and self harm are all signs that she needs someone to talk to. A lot of therapy is not "fixing you". Most of it is figuring out how you can be you in the world. How to adapt. There is another part where the therapist does call you out and point out that your opinion or thoughts about a situation are probably off and you need to re-orient your thinking. They usually do it in a nice and non-threatening way.
LetsHaveFun_ok OP t1_ja93nq1 wrote
Thank you!
I'll relay this idea.. Maybe it's enough.
But what do I do in the mean time?
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