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Practical-Doughnut86 OP t1_jaezbb7 wrote

Reply to comment by houseofreturn in How should I (25F) approach the 3rd time asking my boyfriend (25M) to call me more during the day throughout the week? by Practical-Doughnut86

Don’t tell me to chill out, I’m genuinely upset by these comments because they are assuming things that literally are not true. I appreciate your comment because you are actually giving me advice and not assuming that I’m “crazy” or “incredibly insecure” so thank you for that💕.

  1. I do not text my boyfriend 100 times a day. Not even close. We send about 10 texts a day MAX. Because yes, I work.. and so does he. I don’t FORCE my boyfriend to text me everyday, that’s just us. But I don’t force him. I’m not desperate.

  2. My boyfriend and I do NOT call/ ft everyday. And when we do, it’s not a “requirement”. I don’t force him to call me. As I said before, we usually FaceTime 2, sometimes 3 days out of the week, but ONLY at night to watch shows together. I simply just would like a call here and there during the DAY. I never said I NEED him to call me while he is at work every single day. I just asked that he sometime call me on his way home from work for no reason, just to chat. Or on his way home from the gym. Just to add some spontaneity to it. I don’t need a call every day, or even every other day. Just at least once a week. I wasn’t the one that suggested he call on his break, he said that he would. And tbh it hurt my feelings that he said he would do something, and didn’t because I wouldn’t do that to him. And I just don’t know what to do with the hurt feelings because I know it’s petty, when all else is fine in our relationship but I can’t lie, it hurt my feelings.

Also, we do not live together and only see one another on the weekends

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houseofreturn t1_jaf24s5 wrote

I get that then. It does suck when your partner tells you they’ll do something and don’t stick to it. I think just communicating that it’s hurting your feelings and that you feel like you’re putting in a bit more effort than he is. You’re missing him, and want to talk to him when you can, and it doesn’t feel great that he seemingly isn’t trying to help sooth that with just this little thing every day. Doing the whole “I’ll just text him less” thing is playing games and it’s passive aggressive, and that’s never a good way to treat your partner. Just tell him how it’s hurting you, and hopefully he’ll recognize that he needs to step it up a bit.

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