I'm (F27) seeing a guy (M25) who has female friends hang out at his studio apartment.

Submitted by laung_samudera t3_11dev6h in relationship_advice

I recently started seeing a guy who has girl friends come over to his place and hang out in his studio apartment... On his bed and whatever. I know how this sounds.

A part of me is being open minded and not simply jumping to conclusions... However if we exclusively date, I'm pretty sure I wouldn't be okay with that. I wonder if other people would also have reservations in this situation?

I don't want to be painted as jealous or insecure, and if it was a very close friend of his hanging out at his place, I would be fine with it. What about you guys?

I'm wondering if it's worth the hassle, and it's starting to look like it's not...

Thanks!

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King_Follet t1_ja85j5c wrote

Better to talk about it early. Don’t wait until you’re exclusively dating.

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Witch_on_a_moped t1_ja864re wrote

I personally wouldn't care. They're his friends, and he had those friends before he met me. If you don't want his girl friends hanging out at his house, break up with him because once you say you're not okay with it, he'll tell his friends and you'll come off as the insecure crazy new gf, if he doesn't dump you first.

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Meowtist- t1_ja8klwe wrote

If its multiple girls at the same time i see no issue

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