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ObiWanCanShowMe t1_jaegpz3 wrote

He's not happy with his life or his situation.

He either needs a full change (job) or needs therapy and I say that as someone who thinks therapy is a crapshoot.

That said, you pulled up an incident from a few years ago. That seems ... odd. A one off isn't an indicated of a black hole. His coworkers could suck. They could be making him miserable.

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ThrowRAOpenIn8306 OP t1_jaehg4z wrote

Yeah I understand it could read like I'm resentful but he still does it, not as crass, but practically to everyone he feels slighted about. Under his breath and sometimes quite nasty.

He definitely hates his job, I'm trying to be supportive, but he was the same when he has a couple months of paid redundancy, it's constant. That's why I thought about getting him into stoicism etc.

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ObiWanCanShowMe t1_jaeic9j wrote

>stoicism

That's can be a powder keg. Some people are not compatible with stoicism.

I do not know either of you or your situation, so my advice is suspect, but IMO he needs a change of some sort. How are you at helping the situation? Do you ignore, point it out, yell or demean, are you agreeing/enabling with him? How does that dynamic work?

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