deemsterporn t1_jadwlyq wrote on February 28, 2023 at 7:04 PM

Reply to comment by RepresentativeSplit5 in My (31f) boyfriend (29m) has lived with me for a year and has no intentions to start paying rent or bills by RepresentativeSplit5

What is his reason for not contributing?

RepresentativeSplit5 OP t1_jadwsqr wrote on February 28, 2023 at 7:05 PM

Well at certain points he said he doesn’t see a future with me, and that’s why. But he also took that back when we were getting along, and at several points did agree to pay rent, etc.

RepresentativeSplit5 OP t1_jadwuhe wrote on February 28, 2023 at 7:06 PM

Beyond that reason, I don’t know. There isn’t really one I’ve heard.

deemsterporn t1_jadxq0k wrote on February 28, 2023 at 7:11 PM

Seems like you've allowed this to go on too far. You need to stop being a doormat and set a boundary. If he lives with you he pays x amount of rent or utilities or he stops sleeping over more than once a week. If he's not interested in moving in time to break up and move on. Don't waste more of your time.