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WildlifePolicyChick t1_jad42iz wrote

What should you do? Do your homework.

Look into the demand of your particular job in Canada. Could you be paid just as much if not more in Canada? Do you know? I don't! Maybe find out. Can you work remotely? Same job but different location?

Your relationship with your mom - how much of that can be FaceTime, Zoom, letters, emails, texts? How much of your guilt is her whining and worry and guilting you and how much of it is you honestly wanting to stay? Figure that out. Is she in her 60s or in her 80s?

You want to stay in the UK because your 'relatives will get old'? Well sure, they will get old. But are they going to get crippling old in the next three years? Is everyone on their last legs? 'Will get old some day' is not the same as 'are very old now'.

And how would your family feel about you putting your life (and your wife's and your kid's lives) on hold for XX years?

Point being, sit down and think about it. Write a list. Do your homework, compare where you are now with where you'd be in Canada. Cost of living. Quality of life. Education for your kid. Job opportunities. And weigh it all.

You know - get your shit together and make an informed decision with your wife.

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WildlifePolicyChick t1_jadt7yj wrote

I'm not asking because I want to know - I'm asking because YOU need to know.

For the record, I'm almost 60 and I'm kicking ass. Can't speak for your mom but I imagine she's not ancient and crippled with age.

I think they'd be supportive of us doing what we want - for this reason I don't wish to take advantage of their good nature.

What? They would want you to live your life as you see fit and from that you conclude...you shouldn't? Because...that's what they would want for you? You would be taking advantage of nothing. Damn dude. Your family wants you happy.

I can't imagine it having opportunities in the same league as London.

Well I guess that's something you need to look into. Are the opportunities good enough? Relative to the quality of life? These are thing you have to look up and weigh with your wife - not me.

But from the above - and I'm just guessing here - you are reaching for any excuse to not go. Because you just don't wanna.

If that's the case, own it. Say you don't want to. If you really are of two minds, do the homework with your partner and sort it out.

Is it a big decision? Yes. Is it rocket surgery? No. Besides if you go for X years, you give it a sincere effort (and I mean SINCERE effort), and you want to go back? Go back. Planes fly round trip every day.

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