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Gordossa t1_jady91g wrote

You need serious help. I’m not being nasty, you sound like a 12 year old. You don’t know this man, you’re ‘desperate to be in a relationship’ - why? Why not just take it slow and build a solid foundation? You bought couples bracelets?? You were sad all night because you didn’t get a flower?? Have you ever been in a relationship before? You are a parade of red flags. You don’t split up with someone so that they chase you. You split up because you don’t want to see them again. You need to step away and work on yourself, because the only men that will want this will be trash. Life isn’t a Disney movie. You had a nice guy and you ruined it. Learn what a good relationship looks like and speak to a therapist, this is months of unravelling.

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UCCUTE OP t1_jadzaz1 wrote

I know I do sounds like and act like a child.. but on Valentine’s Day, even my friend just date a girl for twice bought a flower for her. I feel that’s the basic stuff to do. I know I ruined it I’ve already been working on it so hard. I did have some relationship before. all bad side of me happens recently to be honest. I know I’m super toxic I know… I’m trying to improve myself soooo hard. I like him so much. I do feel so sorry to make him feel stressful about everything. What can I do to make him change his mind while I’m working on myself?… I don’t want to lose him because my stupid issue.

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Gordossa t1_jae5zyk wrote

You don’t. You respect his wishes. You are going to be months of therapy to fix this, the relationship is already tainted, you can’t ask him to be single for a year for a crazy chick he dated for a month. Learning what’s important in life will help you a lot, but it sounds like you have a past to unpack with a professional. Hypnosis and exercise are great for anxiety, but anyone can be someone else for a month. There are a million stories on here of people getting married or moving in too quickly and they end up in an abusive relationship. If you are crying at dinner over not getting a flower, how will you cope when real stuff happens? Because real stuff will happen. People will die, have accidents, get sick, lose children, lose their partner, face financial ruin. What do you bring to the table? You sound as though you need babied. That’s not a partner, that’s a responsibility with sex. Decent, stable people can’t be arsed with drama llamas. Life’s too short.

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