Maybe it is time you stop waiting for things to happen and you make them happen for yourself.

Your husband has turned out to be a cheater and lazy manbaby. You gave up your interests for him.

Start taking those interests back. Get a job as a Uber driver or do door dash to start making some money for yourself. Sketch out a five year plan for yourself. "In five years I will have my own place, my own job and freedom to do what I want". Then work backwards. A place of your own may take time. Maybe the house has to be sold and the equity has to be split. Maybe things will be tough financially, but that will be less of a problem then living whatever it is that you are living with now.

No doubt in my mind that meaningful change has to come from you. You might as well make self-centered plans because elevating you is not his priority.