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Well_Jung_One t1_jae8gbb wrote

I'm sorry because he at least partially means all of the jokes he makes. It sounds like he at least has some narcissistic tendencies too. I'd be careful with him.

Does he ever make self-deprecating jokes? If he does, then I could be a bit wrong on my assessment. Just be careful either way because it seems like something trivial but I personally feel it is indicative of bigger personality issues with him and of a lack of respect for you that may be more deep-seated than you realize.

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Routine_Map2131 OP t1_jae9tl1 wrote

Sadly I’ve wondered the same but he’s generally very caring, kind and considerate. This literally came out of nowhere because we joke with each other all the time. I was completely caught off guard y his response.

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Well_Jung_One t1_jaeck6s wrote

It is also possible that he has serious self confidence issues he is hiding. Sometimes people try to tear down others because they feel inferior. Either way, I think he at least partially means the jokes.

Does he shows signs of serious self confidence issues in any other way? Has he had a traumatic past? Have you expanded on his claims that you are being combative/tit-for-tat at all? Meaning: have he given you any kind of reasonable explanation as to why he thinks you doing the same thing he is doing is combative/tit-for-tat or do you typically just say you aren't being that way and it gets dropped?

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Routine_Map2131 OP t1_jaekyrs wrote

Maybe but he projects as extremely confident. Arrogant actually. He has had a traumatic past and I’ve seen him react in a volatile way to some situations but never towards me. By what he’s claiming as me being combative I’m viewing as me contradicting him or me pointing out that when he does something it’s ok but when I do it it’s a problem. I feel like I can’t win because when I’m standing up for myself I’m labeled as combative.

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