25 M, falling in love with an escort F 25 years old

Submitted by fddf123456 t3_11dwy2i in relationship_advice

My experience could be related to pretty woman movie

I met her a few weeks ago. She asked me i wanted to date her. I invited her for meeting outside last week. She accepted in the daytime but she declined in the last minute. Next day, She said that we could go to other place but her plan changed when she needed to work on that day. She called me about the plan change. I visited her at work with her indirect invitation. She said that we could hang out during non work day. I could visit her anytime during work. I like her but there're things I need to compromise a lot. I can support her financially but there might be a lot of issues when we start dating.

Should I avoid falling in love with her and move on? Or if I start dating her, a lot of complication would be there. How to sustain the relationship?

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tlf555 t1_jabb5ld wrote

Are you really falling in love? Or is that loneliness (horniness) talking?

Has she given any real indication that she wants to spend (unpaid) time with you? She might just be stringing ypu along emotionally to keep her as a paying customer.

Do you have a savior (save-her) complex? Thinking you will "rescue" her from her current lifestyle? And she will be forever "grateful" to you in return? If this turns into a real relationship that makes for a huge power imbalance.

Do you even know the real "her" behind the escort? Or is she just playing a fantasy role of who you want her to be?

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fddf123456 OP t1_jabc95g wrote

A lot of great insightful questions here

Not loneliness talking. I like her. I feel that way with only some girls. one or two girls one to three months. I find that either they have boyfriends or not my type after I spend time with them.

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wingedumbrella t1_jac0vp1 wrote

Keep in mind part of her job is putting on an act for men so she'll get paid. She interacts with a lot of different men, so she needs to be able to adapt her personality according to who she's with. She might be doing that with you too, making you feel at ease and accepted around her. But, most of the men she is with probably feel as comfortable around her as you do.

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pineboxwaiting t1_jabd0g1 wrote

Are you paying for these dates?

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fddf123456 OP t1_jabd66d wrote

I'm not paying for dates. However, we haven't hang out outside of her work yet.

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pineboxwaiting t1_jabdyi8 wrote

This is weird. Don’t do this. She asks you out but can only see you at her work? Something is seriously off.

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SurlyJoe69 t1_jabfv63 wrote

Lol dude. Asking men if they want to go on a “date” is literally her job.

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Jmm1272 t1_jabaryq wrote

You want to date someone who get money from being with other men?

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