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slvstrChung t1_jadhmnp wrote

"Another one? Well, I've been ignoring it all this time; I can probably keep ignoring it."

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offbrandbarbie t1_jadhx6w wrote

Unless she returns the feelings it’s probably a little upsetting. Because you thought this person was your friend and genuinely just likes being around you platonically, but now you wonder if that person just had ulterior motives the whole time.

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the-mirrors-truth t1_jadiddj wrote

I've never once appreciated or thought it was flattering.

It always felt like, huh dude was nice because he wanted in my pants. It made me feel like our friendship was fake, especially if they lead with "I've felt like this for a long time" or similar. Our friendships did not survive.

Is she in a relationship or did she start seeing someone? What prompted you to tell her?

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JustAnotherMaineGirl t1_jadiea0 wrote

If she likes him back the same way, she'll say "Hooray! Guess what, I feel the same way about you! Let's date!"

If she doesn't like him back the same way, she'll think "Ew, awkward. I don't want to hurt his feelings and I'd still like to be friends with him, but I don't want to lead him on either." And she'll likely say something like she's not interested in dating right now, or she likes your friendship just the way it is.

If she didn't say much of anything, it's safe to assume she doesn't feel the same way but she hasn't figured out a way to let you down gently.

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deemsterporn t1_jadkfhw wrote

Here's the truth- women know. I'm aware every straight male I'm friends with would 100% sleep with me given the chance or opportunity. Some are just more respectful than others.

If she had any type of romantic feelings for you she knows it can and will be reciprocated if she wanted to.

Best case scenario she'll think good for him for being honest maybe now he can get over it and move on to someone who feels the same. Worst case she'll think it's selfish and the friendship will fade.

Any time in the past I've 'confessed' feelings for someone when I'm not positive they feel the same it's been regrettable at best and humiliating at worst.

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