I 30F caused my neighbor 32F to get a lot of flea bites

Submitted by ThrowRAminipest t3_11ed98s in relationship_advice

So we have a flea problem. A wild racoon or possum has taken shelter in our back porch. We didn’t discover this for a while and we were confused why we kept getting fleas despite treating our home and our cat.

Anyways, my husband recent cleaned out the mini shed and found the little critter. We threw out everything in that shed. We live in a town home so our trashcan was next to theirs. This morning, our neighbor said when she went to get into the car, she got many flea bites. She called me to notify me of this flea issues that seems to be from our trashcan.

I’m already distressed enough about the fleas because I have flea bite allergies but now i feel sick to my stomach that we have caused them to have this issue.

(Our neighbor has general flea issues due to many stray cats. I both feel responsible and also that it’s not fully my fault - or is it?) what should i do to help maintain the relationship with our neighbors?

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WeeklyConversation8 t1_jadpcrv wrote

You both have flea problems. You both need to treat the flea problems together. Maybe hire the same pest control company.

As far as the stray cats, they need to be kept away from the houses. Otherwise the flea problems will continue.

The other option is they catch all the cats and take them to the Vet to be treated. Granted they can get fleas again.

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houndsofluv t1_jaeh2f4 wrote

Don't feel too bad, this sort of thing happens. I'd say apologize to your neighbour, explain how it happened, and tell them the steps you're taking to deal with the issue. Beyond that, no need to do anything. They'll likely appreciate knowing that you're handling the situation.

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HHIOTF t1_jaet4oe wrote

It's not your fault. Don't sweat it.

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