[deleted] OP t1_jad77fe wrote on February 28, 2023 at 4:24 PM

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[deleted] OP t1_jad7k5s wrote on February 28, 2023 at 4:26 PM

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hisimpendingbaldness t1_jad7yzf wrote on February 28, 2023 at 4:29 PM

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Can you talk to her about eloping?

Where do you plan on living after marriage?

[deleted] OP t1_jad87er wrote on February 28, 2023 at 4:30 PM

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[deleted] OP t1_jad88li wrote on February 28, 2023 at 4:30 PM

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throwaway_151821 t1_jadaadz wrote on February 28, 2023 at 4:44 PM

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delay the wedding for now. my belief is that if it's not a hell yes then it's a no. I feel like your girl is Filipina and if her family's what I think it is, you are never going to have her as your wife 100%. Her family's welfare will always come first even though you're starting your own family. If you're taking her to live with you, expect that even if she gets a good job a huge chunk of her earnings will be sent back home and won't go towards your plans as a couple. You will become the money source of the family so expect calls about every possible financial emergency. you're going to visit her hometown often and expect that you will be the ones spending the whole time. I could be wrong, but in most cases this is what happens. observe and assess because that is a big commitment you're making.

Kooky_Independent656 t1_jadm69n wrote on February 28, 2023 at 5:59 PM

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You love her but just don't like her parents...that happens more than you know. Get married and get through the wedding with the in laws and live a happy life.