My (M19) boyfriend has pictures of naked girls on his phone and it makes me (NB19) uncomfortable

Submitted by ThrowRAsocool t3_11eiv9h in relationship_advice

Title says it all but I’ll give some more backstory:

My (19M) boyfriend was showing me (19NB) photos on his phone. While he was scrolling, a picture of a random girl was in his camera roll. Curious, I asked him about and he said he was porn. He laughed about it and this upset me so I gave him the cold shoulder. Later I was trying to express how upset I was and he said “All guys do this. It’s not just me” and “You’re not going to control what I have on my phone.”. I don’t mind if he watches porn but I really wasn’t expecting him to have pics of naked girls on his phone.

We respect eachother’s privacy but this has made me lose almost all of my trust. I can’t give him what I was due to my fear of pregnancy (And I’m in therapy for that) but this doesn’t seem normal to me.

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razzledazzle626 t1_jae960n wrote

I wouldn’t be with someone who acted like that

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ThrowRAsocool OP t1_jae9n85 wrote

Something about his response doesn’t sit right with me. I don’t mind him watching it but it made me feel super insecure knowing there’s pictures of prettier or sexier girls on his phone. I’m not so sure if I should bring it up again or just keep quiet..

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propsandpaws t1_jaec7ic wrote

No not all guys do this lol. Don’t let him gaslight you. It’s one thing to watch porn, it’s another to have an openly visible spank bank. Even for a 19 year old, that’s immature af. Boy bye!

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ThrowRAsocool OP t1_jaecgbd wrote

Yeah that didn’t make any sense to me lol. Why would he have it when he can just watch it? I’ll probably talk to him about it again tonight

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1968Russtang t1_jaek0rs wrote

If you don't like the relationship now. Leave

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