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Flashleyredneck t1_jadgx2z wrote

Then YOU plan a date. YOU take him on a date. You plan the fun events and lead by example. Then you can ask he do the same. If you are just sitting around too you are equally responsible for the boring relationship.

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Turbulent_Cicada_516 OP t1_jadi5j7 wrote

I’ve offered to join him in skateboarding and we agreed to that as well as to plan something different for at least 1day out of the week but neither of those things happen. I’ve tried initiating sexual intimacy but it doesn’t last long and he doesn’t reciprocate it the next time we hang out or the days following

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ZharethZhen t1_jaea3p6 wrote

Don't offer to join him. Say, I have a table booked on Thursday, see you there. I have tickets for a movie at 8. I booked us seats at the outdoor theatre. Etc.

But yes, he is comfortable and doesn't feel the need to try.

Just be upfront with him. Tell him you are bored of the routine and don't want to continue like this.

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