You can ask, but I doubt you’ll get it back

I think things like that should be discussed beforehand to be honest

Was it a loan? With a plan to repay?

Unless there is very important information you’re leaving out you have no right to ask for it back and he has no obligation to entertain such a request. You can’t ask for a gift back from a moral or legal standpoint.

OP, was there ever any discussion of the terms regarding the tuition? As in, did you ever make it known to him that this was not a gift, and he was to pay you back? Sadly, it sounds like he used you for as long as it took him to get what he wanted until he found an exit and no longer had use for you. If you did tell him it was not a gift and he was to pay you back, you can take him to small claims court. Anyone willing to take a large sum of money, like your ex did, and never think about some kind of reciprocity uses people like he did to you. You may want to get things in writing, not be so open with your kindness and protect yourself a little better. Tuition is expensive AF in many cases, so I’m sorry you’re dealing with this.

Nope.

Unless you had an agreement, like he would pay you back, or put the funds down towards your common future in form of payment, you shouldn't

You took a chance. Being with someone is accepting the risk that it may not work out in the hand, but making the bet that it will. You gave money betting that you would stay together and marry and spend your life together. But you didn't. If you gave money because you wanted to help him, well you did. You being together or not does not change that.

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Go ahead and ask. But don't expect to ever get the money.

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