Hi. First of all, something about me - I am very jealous person. I have trust issues, have really bad relationship experiences (one of my ex cheated on me, my last ex left me because of one of my best friend). I was not that jealous in past relationships, before the last very bad experience. In this relationship I experience completely different emotikony lol. I also suffer from bad depression and it really affects my relationship right now and i am aware of that. We are in relationship for 6 months now. My girlfriend is absolutely not jealous at all. She does not really care about who I talk to, who I go out with or who a follow on social medias.

She recently told me about two guys who aked her out, who work next to her coffee shop. She normally told me by herself about the situation, one asked her out on date even despite he has a girlfriend, the other texted her on ig. She said she refused. I asked her how did he get her IG. She answered that a lot of guys who work in a store next to her coffee shop come there for a coffee. She told me some guy who is 45 or something asked her for her instagram, she gave it to him. He gave her ig to other guys in the store, then the other guy texted her and asked her out, she told me she refused. I did not bother me that much really at the time, i was just thinking about why did she give her ig to random older dude.

But the other day she showed me picture of one of the guys who asked her out, his selfie in the mirror. But I noticed she liked the photo of him. Then I also found out she follows him and the other guy who asked her out and and has a girlfriend on IG.

I quickly asked her why does she give her ig to strangers and follow and like dudes who asked her out and she does not know them at all. She said she has no reason, she does not think about it like that, they added her and she added them, She also said she just wants me to know and she wants to tell me everything, thats why she showed me the picture of him.

I just dont know how to feel about this. I am really uncomfortable about her giving her ig to random guys a following guys who asked her on date and liking their pictures. I dont really care if she likes pictures of her long time male friends tbh. But this botheres me. On the other hand i am aware she told me by herself and showed me the picture of the guy, she already liked the picture of him she showed me. So it does not make sense, if she had bad intentions or thoughts, she would not directly show me the picture she already liked i think.

What are your opinions? Am I acting like a dick or should I be concerned? Thank you guys!

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SomeJokeTeeth t1_jac6dxn wrote on February 28, 2023 at 11:22 AM

Seems like she enjoyed the attention, she most likely added them and liked their pictures in an indirect attempt to get them to keep providing her with that attention. If I were you I'd keep an eye on the comments that may show up from those guys.

NewBayRoad t1_jacz0dl wrote on February 28, 2023 at 3:30 PM

I agree. I wonder if it is worth bringing up her need for the attention and addressing what it could lead to.

david_antas OP t1_jadd13m wrote on February 28, 2023 at 5:01 PM

Thats what I am thinking about. If to bring it up or not, dont want to look controling or crazy jealous.

NewBayRoad t1_jadjfr7 wrote on February 28, 2023 at 5:42 PM

Maybe ask her what are the upsides and downsides of this. Also maybe show her this thread, so it isn’t just you who is thinking this.

david_antas OP t1_jadjr4f wrote on February 28, 2023 at 5:44 PM

What do you mean by upsides and downsides?

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