Witch_on_a_moped t1_jaepie2 wrote
You don't think he can stay faithful to you for 14 weeks? That's probably something you should talk about. Is it that he's afraid of possibly hurting you? Or maybe he's embarrassed to masturbate together? It sounds like it's all going to be new and he's probably just feeling overwhelmed right now, as I'm sure you are as well!
Stormy_Sol OP t1_jaeq2so wrote
14 weeks is a long time for a guy that told me at the start of the relationship "I want sex every single day." He's already masturbated 4 times alone since last week's surgery. It's been... difficult... knowing that he refuses my aide too.
Yes I'm very overwhelmed by it all too. I knew I was going to be, but the complications have made it that much more so.
Witch_on_a_moped t1_jaeqfh8 wrote
I think with a little patience, he'll come around to needing to see you naked. I'm sorry about your complications, that sounds scary!
Stormy_Sol OP t1_jaeqthh wrote
That is my hope, but I have a feeling he will still use his hand only.
Witch_on_a_moped t1_jaer4lq wrote
What about if you masturbate and he uses his hand on himself while watching you? That could start opening some doors/ideas. Is he embarrassed to do it in front of you? Has he ever?
Stormy_Sol OP t1_jaerofr wrote
This is pretty much new territory. We tried once very early on but I'd honestly never touched myself in that particular way so I was struggling. I wanted to but we'd only been dating 2 weeks at the point. I still had butterflies in my stomach knowing my friend was now my lover. But no we've not tried to since then.
To be honest, he's not embarrassed to masturbate in front of me, I don't think. It's just the game has to change so he's unsure he wants to you know? I'll bring this idea up when I'm feeling better though.
Witch_on_a_moped t1_jaew4dl wrote
Yes when you're feeling better try again by yourself. This could bring you two closer as well!
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