I’ve [25M] made my decision to break up with my GF [23F], but when and how do I act on it? Planned trip coming up.

Submitted by ThrowRAmindboggled t3_11eiohv in relationship_advice

So to keep this short, I [25M] have decided its best to break up with my [23F] girlfriend. Been together 2 years, living together for 1. She owns the house we live in together, I pay rent. I’ve done my research how to go about breaking up when you live together. So I’ve got that part down, but here’s the problem.

I’ve made my decision, but at the start of next month for her bday she booked us a realllllly nice but realllly expensive ski trip for her bday. She paid for it. (She was left a lot of money from grandparents). I know it would be best to break up with her before the trip, but she got the ski pass and other things in my name that aren’t refundable. I know the right thing would be to just pay my part but I don’t have the type of money she does and can’t just drop that much money on top of having to get my own place with more expensive rent.

What should I do and how should I go about it?

5

Comments

You must log in or register to comment.

UsuallyWrite2 t1_jae8yej wrote

Make your move out plan, then tell her that you care about her and have enjoyed the time together but it just doesn’t feel like a good fit and that you’re moving out on X day.

Do it before the trip. She can invite someone else.

10

ThrowRAmindboggled OP t1_jaea0yt wrote

The problem is the ski pass among other things is non refundable and I’m pretty sure you can’t transfer the pass to someone else. Might be the same case with the flight.

2

UsuallyWrite2 t1_jaeak58 wrote

That’s really not your problem. She can sort it out. You can pay her back later if you want to. But going on the trip would be wrong unless she wants to have you there as friends.

8

ThrowRAmindboggled OP t1_jaeaul2 wrote

You bring up a good point. I should probably bring it up to her before the trip and see what she wants me to do. I still love her and definitely don’t want to screw her over. Just realized she’s not who I see myself with for life and it would be better to end it sooner rather than later.

3

AutoModerator t1_jae7ypk wrote

Welcome to /r/relationship_advice. Please make sure you read our rules here. We'd like to take this time to remind users that:

  • We do not allow any type of am I the asshole? or situations/content involving minors

  • Any sort of namecalling, insults,etc will result in the comment being removed and the user being banned. (Including but not limited to: slut, bitch, whore, for the streets, etc. It does not matter to whom you are referring.)

  • ALL advice given must be good, ethical advice. Joke advice or advice that is conspiratorial or just plain terrible will be removed, and users my be subject to a ban.

  • No referencing hateful subreddits and/or their rhetoric. Examples include, but is not limited to: red/blue/black/purplepill, PUA, FDS, MGTOW, etc. This includes, but is not limited to, referring to people as alpha/beta, calling yourself or users "friend-zoned", referring to people as Chads, Tyrones, or Staceys, pick-me's, or pornsick. Any infractions of this rule will result in a ban. This is not an all-inclusive list.

  • All bans in this subreddit are permanent. You don't get a free pass.

  • What we cannot give advice on: rants, unsolicited advice, medical conditions/advice, mental illness, letters to an ex, "body counts" or number of sexual partners, legal problems, financial problems, situations involving minors, and/or abuse (violence, sexual, emotional etc). All of these will be removed and locked. This is not an all-inclusive list.

If you have any questions, please send us a modmail.

#This is an automatic comment that appears on all posts. This comment does not necessarily mean your post violates any rules.

I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please contact the moderators of this subreddit if you have any questions or concerns.

1