He says you shouldn't be giving advice regarding "transformative experiences" because making those decisions yourself shapes independent morals, values, and thinking.

He says that "it is impossible to know if a friend’s life will benefit from a transformative experience – such as new job, the birth of a child, or a university course – until after the event. It is for them to find out, he says." Therefore the friend shouldn't give advice.

Kinda crazy that advising on having or not having kids is the same level of advising not to take a certain class

Eta: shapes *preferences, not morals