Yes, that is a more succinct and precise rendering of what I initially tried to express in a circuitous and clumsy way. His father deemed artists (such as Kafka aspired to be) to be Ungeziefer sponging off the strong and self-reliant men of business who moreover got married and raised families - something Kafka longed to do yet felt unfit for - and Kafka certainly felt tortured by this as he couldn't help relying on his father for survival (physically and emotionally). This paradox of loving & needing someone (or some thing) who nonetheless tortures & humiliates you, or (to use another metaphor from his Notebooks) the dream-like contradiction of something being incommunicable yet demanding to be communicated, explains much of the underlying pathos (and bathos) in his work.

Thanks for the correction and the intelligent exposition.