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TimeFourChanges t1_je0vjzi wrote

I have no idea how this could be implemented for real, but extensive parenting classes would go the furthest. After that, yes, I'd such major community development, especially in terms of giving both younger and older kids outlets for all their pent-up energy and aggression. If those two could be combined into one multi-purpose community center (maybe with community-led groups and classes), where families and kids can get to know each other from a young age, taking away the alienation that allows for violence to occur, that would do the most for the community, I think.

ALL of the issues that you see with the kids from the hood are the reult of generational trauma. The students I taught at Gratz that were at grade level, worked hard everyday, and aimed to go to college - unshockingly - had nice, stable home lives. Those that were unstable and violent had home-lives that reflected their behaviors. So, blame the parents, right? Well, they had the same issues growing up, along with all the trauma that comes from living in North Philly, being black and always at odds with the police, never feeling safe around them, high incarceration rates, poor enployment options, etc. So their behaviors are just as understandable. This includes parenting styles and techniques. Some of these parents are violently abusive to their kids, because that's how they were raised, and that's all they know how to react when their child is upset and they don't know what to do.

Providing all the mothers to be - especially the teen mothers - extensive parenting classes, along with on-going support in the early years (for those of you without kids, as a parent of two, those early years are HARD).

I've also worked in elementary schools and have seen how some kids come into the school - with almost no academic prepartion. My kids were so far advanced by the time they hit the door of kindergarten, but we didn't do anything excessive. We read to them every night, we answered their questions, we took them to the library, museums, parks, etc. Mostly just always had conversations with them, and talked to them about everything, and talking abotu fun scientific concepts like, say, the rain cycle, I'd dig up a youtube video and we'd learn more. Also, watching shows with them and anytime they were interested in something, pausing and discussing it with them, as well as playing puzzle games with them. I know that kinda sounds like a lot, but I mean to say this wasn't all the time. There was plenty of unstrctured time and just watching shows and such. I wasn't grilling them on everything and making them study for tests or what-have-you.

Anyway, point being, that if every mother-to-be got intensive classes as well as support, maybe even up to kindergarten, I'd suspect that the multitude of issues would be vastly less within three generations.

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SauconySundaes t1_je19zlf wrote

Essentially we need mandatory maternity/paternity leave and universal pre-k. Having well funded and organized starts for children can make all the difference.

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AskMoreQuestionsOk t1_je3bb15 wrote

That’s a great idea.

I don’t know why it isn’t a cultural thing where new parents can shadow or work with veteran parents in some way. It seems kind of obvious for infants, but really it makes sense to have knowledge sharing all the way to college graduation.

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Bartleby_TheScrivene t1_je0yfj9 wrote

Mandatory military service in order to attain citizenship and right to have children imo.

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