RO489 t1_j6nr4qr wrote on January 31, 2023 at 5:12 PM

Your parents need to apply for government assistance for a caretaker. That can be your brothers salary.

In the meantime, I think you all should sit down and look at the budget and expenses and then determine a salary for your brother. Discretionary spending would come out of that budget. You Can agree to help financially only to the extent that they stick to the budget

KReddit934 t1_j6nyonc wrote on January 31, 2023 at 5:57 PM

Social Security and caretaker are different. The doctors,will determine if caretaking is,required and eligible for support. You could some research and offer the info to your brother if this is an option in their state...it might help ease the financial drain

Otherwise, this is their problem at this point.

xdonnyxx94 OP t1_j6ntxjg wrote on January 31, 2023 at 5:29 PM

I'm not sure this is an option as they are older and already receiving social security benefits.

I’d be happy to help manage the budget and contribute where I can, but I am not confident that this will make any difference in their spending habits; they have already been meet with several significant financial crises over the years (unable to pay mortgage on time, major housing repairs, inability to afford medications) without any change. If these experiences haven't motivated them, I am afraid my input on a budget will be futile.

RO489 t1_j6o23uv wrote on January 31, 2023 at 6:18 PM

You’ll need to Google your state and see what the requirements are for a caregiver.