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hijinks t1_jab8pv2 wrote

Reply to comment by waynekop in Father getting divorced by waynekop

that's why he'll need a lawyer to help find anything hidden.

My friend is a divorce lawyer in NY and he always says people try to hide finances from others which is a giant mistake. The one thing judges hate more then anything in a divorce is someone trying to hide money.

I'd at least pay for a consultation to see about the laws in your state dealing with divorce. For example the 25y they were together the retirement money might be considered joint property to split.

If he has concrete examples of what is his and what isn't then maybe they can split things without spending a lot of money on lawyers and battling.

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waynekop OP t1_jab9728 wrote

This is great, thank you. This is why I've told him the 1st step is a laywer. But I just want ammo to go into the meeting with the laywer with so I'm not shooting into the dark

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waynekop OP t1_jabbnwx wrote

He has a record of "paying rent" via checks to my grandma in law ($400/mo over 25 yrs), but how does he prove the thousands he's spent on home renovation/repairs/maitance and remodels over the years?

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Motor-Farm6610 t1_jabpy7n wrote

How did he bankroll renovations with no job? He's probably not entitled to get that back, but states differ some.

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waynekop OP t1_jacfqvr wrote

He's had a job throughout the marriage. He's been unemployed since covid basically

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determinwhat t1_jacnvm4 wrote

I hate reading this, it reminds me of things I saw friends go through in the aftermath of 2008. It's good he's got his son backing him up. Watch out for his lifestyle, drinking not going out, doctors prescribing painkillers.

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