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Zlec3 t1_j5m17el wrote

Reply to comment by mowotlarx in George Santos proposed to teen boyfriend while still married to a woman: report by [deleted]

I’m 29 and dating a 23 year old. Am I a monster ? It’s the same age difference.

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big90burban t1_j5m5pzy wrote

Pretty sure your mathing wrong... 26 - 18 = 8 & 29 - 23 = 6. And you'd only really be considered a monster if the individual your dating is under 18 (with a 6 year age difference), but if they're old enough to buy an alcoholic beverage, then who cares? And my wife is 8 years older than me, and she's not a monster, though I do joke quite frequently ,"Is she robbing the cradle or am I robbing the grave?"

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mowotlarx t1_j5miikd wrote

You don't know the difference between dating an 18 year old teenager right out of highschool and someone past college age? 🚩

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big90burban t1_j5mqsp4 wrote

Sorry, I was on the older side for highschool (September birthday). I graduated in '04 at 19 years old and went to community college for 2 years and then graduated from a university 4 years after that, so 6 years after highschool I graduated college. I'm not saying a highschool senior should date a college graduate by any means, especially since at those ages no one's got their shit together, and I'm sure it's not a healthy relationship. That being said, 6 or even 8 years is nothing in the grand scheme of things...

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mowotlarx t1_j5mxtw5 wrote

...I beg you to recognize the difference between a 49 year old dating a 43 year old and a 24 year old dating an 18 year old. This is a lot of mental gymnastics to excuse an adult dating a teenager.

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big90burban t1_j5n1xz4 wrote

I never said it's ok, as a matter of fact I specified that I don't believe a highschool senior should be dating a college graduate. I said 6 or 8 years is just a number, my wife and I are 8 years apart. We never even realize our age difference in daily life. At an older age, you have life experiences, what to do and not to do. At those ages, you don't necessarily have the mental wherewithal to make decisions that couples of older age posses.

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mowotlarx t1_j5n76hr wrote

I'm talking about adults dating teenagers. Not age gaps between 30 year olds. If you met your wife when she was 18 and you were 26 (or visa versa), that's pretty gross though.

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big90burban t1_j5oa6j7 wrote

Yes, it is abhorrent for an adult to date a teenager, not sure how many times I have to say it. All I am saying is in the grand scheme of life, 6 or 8 years is nothing, with the caveat that the two people are consenting adults. Yes, I was 26 when we met, she was 34. Hence my joke about craddle robbing vs grave robbing. And it's vice versa, not visa versa.

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mowotlarx t1_j5ob3me wrote

You keep replying to comments about adults dating teenagers with your "age is just a number" comments and you're confused as to why you seem like a massive red flag? This story isn't about age gaps. It's about preying on teenagers. If you actually thought that was abhorrent you wouldn't be spending so much energy talking about your older wife.

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big90burban t1_j5obn8u wrote

I keep replying about age is just a number because that's all I'm talking about. I don't need to talk about Santos or adults dating children because that's not something that needs to be discussed because it's already bad and has been stated over and over. I'm not disagreeing with you or fighting with you, never was. I keep referring to my wife as an example of an 8 year age gap in a healthy functioning relationship.

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