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JelliedHam t1_j91c950 wrote

Reply to comment by AmazinTim in I just wanted to ask a girl for directions on the subway, and she absolutely made my day by skyeyemx

I've heard a comment that new Yorkers are kind but not always nice. People from other cities are nice but not always kind.

I think if you throw out the outliers. Overly nice and total assholes you end up with an average of: if you respect our pace, space, and expectations of general etiquette in NYC, we are pleasant and enthusiastic about helping others in need. The best way to flow in the city and get help when you need it is to be chill and get out of the way when needed. If it's clear you're not completely oblivious to others or a total douche, we got you.

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StevenAssantisFoot t1_j91hci7 wrote

This is too accurate. If someone asks me for directions and we are going a similar way I will of course give them directions but also stay visibly nearby just in case they need more help and so they know I am sort of with them (I am a small woman and definitely not a presence anyone would perceive as menacing). I don't try and chat or make friends but I do feel a protective instinct to watch over this stranger and not allow them to feel alone and lost, or miss their stop. Kind, but not nice. Never thought of my behavior this way but it's true.

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eekamuse t1_j91l532 wrote

I do the same thing. It's great to hear how it feels for the other person. At least for OP

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