I mean. I’m former military. We generally train to not “put hands in pockets”, and I have generally rationalized it as being a safety thing in ships, because if a ship suddenly lurches some direction you can brace yourself.

But recently I’ve found that, if it’s not cold and you have your hands in your pockets, it’s weird.

Like, what are you doing? Playing with yourself? Playing with your keys? Now it does have some kind of feeling like, what’s in your pocket that you’d rather be messing with that than focusing on your surrounding?

I know some people will have differing opinion, but like, just keeping your hand in your pocket seems a weird thing to do since your pocket is like a portable liminal zone

*edit. Im getting downvoted, but at the same time it seems that some people feel that it is weird to just chill “hands in pockets style”. To clarify, I’ve never yelled at someone over this thing, but it’s always stuck with me that, if it’s not cold, it strange.

Not offended by downvotes, but if those people could chime in as to why it would be appropriate for professionals to hang around with hands in pockets, I’d be willing to read them at least.

Putting them in my pant pockets feels weird when it isn’t cold. But I like resting them in my coat pockets even when I’m indoors, even when it isn’t that cold. There’s a difference to it somewhere!

I’ve never thought this deeply into the idea of hands in pockets and didn’t expect this to be much more than a joke but you’ve made an excellent point. I can absolutely see the act of someone having their hands in their pockets creating a sort of subconscious bias of distrust in others.

Well I think you're weird for thinking I'm weird for having my hands in my pockets lol. Nothing wrong with putting your hands in storage while they aren't in use.

What's the consensus on hooking my thumbs in the corner of my pockets with my fingers dangling out and tapping random beats?

Just be careful with your beats while on TV. If you accidentally say something in Morse code you will suddenly be at the center of a bunch of conspiracy theories

My Nan got me once when I was walking into a funeral with my hands in my pockets.

I think in some situations it's just seen as rude, as though you don't care.

Ignore the downvotes people are babies on reddit.

Who hurt you?

You're never too old to get scolded by your mother.

I wonder where, when and why this "no hands in your pockets" started. Is it because women's clothing often doesn't have pockets and moms are leveling the playing field?

Was it his mom? 😂

Edit: IT WAS 🤣

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It shall be allowed

I'm an American.

I forgive him, but, he might find it harder to secure his mother's forgiveness.

He looks cold.

It looks quite teenage with the jacket buttoned up. I don't blame the old lady

Tiger mom

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It's been a thing since before women lost their pockets, not sure of the when and where though. When it comes to body language both hands in your pockets indicates shyness and powerlessness, which is not very professional and not what you want from a leader. A lot of manners come from policing your actions to improve your body language and therefore how people perceive you.

I appreciate you being open to hearing other perspectives. I’ve had anxiety for my whole life, and while putting my hands in my pockets isn’t my go-to thing, I’ll sometimes do it. I’m not a psychology expert but just from my own experiences, I’d say when you’re in a situation of feeling stressed/anxious/etc. that it’s comforting to feel as insulated as possible and/or to “close themselves off” to feel less vulnerable, similar to people who always have their arms crossed. Maybe some people are touching themselves, I dunno, haha but I do feel like there’s a lot of people that just do it as a coping mechanism habit.

Yeah no, I just like putting my hands in my pockets when my arms are tired of just dangling about doing nothing. I enjoy the warmth too, it's comfy.

This "body language" thing sounds like a load of BS to me.

Well you'll be glad to know that a lot of people and career paths don't give a shit about manners anymore, so go right ahead. This thread was however speaking about a position that does still require a certain level of professionalism.

The (flawed) general opinion is that putting your hands in your pockets means something bad. What I'm saying is that it doesn't mean shit, some people like to do it and will continue to do it. It is only "unprofessional" to those that believe putting your hands in your pockets indicates shyness and powerlessness (it does not).

Someone send this to Danielle Smith

You're preaching to the choir my friend. My hands live in pockets when I have access to them, was just trying to answer someones question.

Ah, my bad then. I thought since you're downvoting me that means you're disagreeing with me so I was confused. So why are you downvoting me anyways lol?

I haven't downvoted anything today, I'm pretty stingy with both arrows. My points have been fluctuating as well.

Source?

https://bodylanguagematters.com/hands-in-pockets/

This is the best I can find quickly on hands. There is plenty of other research on body language out there though.

F A I L U R E

i remeber my dad giving me shit coming back from a vacation because i flew Buisness Class in shorts.

i was like " its July and its Turkey, i'm not wearing long pants "

TIL that Japanese moms and Marine Corps DI’s have more in common then I thought

Reddit is truly home to some of the most insane people lmao

The two Japanese companies I’ve worked for don’t allow having your hands in your pockets inside the place. I’ve honestly always been curious where it all came from and what it signifies

It’s just dumb old-fashioned etiquette/manners shit, like having your elbows on the table. There was probably some original justification for it, but does it really matter?

Kihara revealed on YouTube that his mother had told him on the phone that she had seen an online comment that his behavior disgraced his parents, and added, "I'm ashamed. Sew up your pockets."

He has to commit Sudoku soon.

I recommend you post this on r/the10thdentist

this is kinda sweet.

E M O T I O N A L D A M A G E

I was in the Army and can attest to the hands out of pockets policy. The way it was explained to me was that it just looks unprofessional, and that much military stuff is based off standard and bearing. Certain haircuts, uniform being neat, minimal make up, hands out of pockets, all that is to at least make a soldier (or sailor!) seem like they know what they're doing and that they're the best.

Out now though, got my hands all up in them pockets and making up for lost time. My handsies just feel so comfy in their homes.

You gotta toe tap.