What's the line between "we have a lot to learn and make mistakes" to just being bad and racist as you seem to suggest his parents were.

I think a lot of people would like to learn more, would like to hurt less, would like to help more, but there's such a desire in society to just drunk on people and brand them as something bad so venturing out in that towards kind of thing is just super risky.

Or is the lesson here that adoptive parents should stick with their own race so their mistakes, whether reasonable or not, don't harm the kids, and don't involve the parents being forever labeled as racists decades later.