Lisylis t1_j5tph3b wrote on January 25, 2023 at 2:33 PM

Reply to comment by sandwichcrackers in The women in my family give birth differently by EaPAtbp

I had a friend tell me about her C-section and a reflective surface above the bed meant she could see the doctors take her organs out of the places they belong to get the baby out, and dear Jesus I was already planning on not having kids but between your story and hers I am even more not going to have them now. My ovaries have withered up and died. I am so impressed you had three, what a horrifying experience.

sandwichcrackers t1_j5tviix wrote on January 25, 2023 at 3:15 PM

It's not for everyone, don't let anyone make you feel obligated to reproduce. I don't regret it for a second because I know and love my children, but between pregnancy (btw, little known fact, you commonly can't take full breaths late in pregnancy because there's a human pressing on your lungs and it scares the crap out of you to not be able to breathe deeply) and birth, it's the most damaging thing I've ever done to my body and has left serious scars on my mind.

Would I endure it all again to have my children? Yes. Would I have done it if you told me what I would go through before I became pregnant the first time with no knowledge of who my children are today? Absolutely not.