Submitted by aphibacus192000 t3_z1j1bw in nosleep

I was just an eight-year-old girl when I told my Dad that I saw Mom "naked wrestling" with a man that wasn't him. She swore up and down that she never cheated on him, but Dad didn't believe her. Two years after the dust had settled over the messy divorce, my Mom started seeing a new guy she met in AA. She introduced me to him, but I already recognized him. He was the guy who I saw sleeping with my mom when I was eight. But they wouldn't have sex for the first time until five years later, on their wedding night. Mom was a good woman.

It was around that time that I realized that I could see things before they happened.

I’ll answer some of the questions you probably have: No, I don’t know the winning lottery numbers. No, I don't get to choose what future I see. And no, it's not easy to change the future once I have a "vision" about it.

My visions are a lot like one of those 1000-piece jigsaw puzzles. I get to look at the image on the box to see how it will turn out in the end. But it's like other people are putting the puzzle together. And I can’t stop them. It might take a long time for them to be finished, or maybe there are only a few pieces left by the time I get involved, but for the most part the pieces always fall into place. I can try to remove certain pieces, or rearrange them, or force the wrong pieces together. Sometimes I do end up changing the future for the better, other times all I ever accomplish is making the final result a lot sloppier, and sometimes nothing changes no matter what I do.

When I was in high school I had a vision of a close friend dying in a car crash. I went to the party where I knew he would get too drunk to drive but try to drive anyway. So, I stole his keys. He decided to take his girlfriend's car instead. Along with his girlfriend. My original vision saw him dying shortly after running off the road. But since I intervened, he instead t-boned a minivan at 90 miles per hour, killing himself, his girlfriend, and the father of four in the other car.

Like I said: sometimes when I try to change what is already supposed to happen, it ends up coming out a lot sloppier. There's always a chance that I make things worse. So, I usually try not to change things. But there are some things that I just can't let play out, no matter what else may happen. I was once at a restaurant, and I recognized the couple across from me from one of my visions. In my vision, I was watching a news story about a beautiful young woman who was cut up into pieces and left in black plastic bags all over the city. It was her. The news story then went on to show the man who murdered her. It was him. From the looks of it, she was falling head over heels for the creep. I sent him drinks and flirted with him aggressively until he lost interest in her, which made her storm off in humiliation. I'm sure she hated me for doing that, but if she knew what she was headed towards, I'm sure she'd be glad that I intervened. I looked her up sometime after that. She's a practicing nurse now. Still alive. Has a boyfriend. Last I checked, he proposed. He seems like a much better guy than her date even pretended to be. Speaking of that monster, I never saw him in the news. Which means he hopefully hasn't killed anyone. Or he just hasn’t been caught. I hope I never get to find out which.

It's so much worse being a woman with this "gift". Especially because I don't want to be alone forever. After I caused Mom and Dad to split up, I prayed every night that they'd get back together. But when it became clear that they never would, I promised myself that I'd find someone and have the happy marriage that I always wished they had. But being able to sometimes see how a date is going to end before it even starts has destroyed all my trust in men. And it is already hard to trust them. There are times that I feel like I am almost ready to get back into the dating scene, only to have a horrifying vision showing how putting my trust in a stranger plays out. I know that every guy isn't like that, but too many of them are. And I don't get to see the future of every date I go on, just a few of them. So the best I can do is avoid the truly awful men who attack me in my visions. But my visions have only saved me from some evil men. Some, not all.

But I won't need to worry about other men any more, because I know who I will end up marrying. I've had a vision of a moment we share together, sometime in the future. In it, he's wearing my father's wedding ring that I will give to him when I propose. Most guys are put off by a woman proposing, but not him. He has curly, dirty blonde hair and his light blue eyes are full of tears as he kneels on my chest and covers my face with a pillow and holds it there until I eventually stop moving.

Seeing a vision of my own death never gets any easier to process, no matter how many times I've seen it happen. I often think about all the ways I could die, just like everybody else does, but it's so much worse when you are shown the completed puzzle like that. Especially when you don't know how many pieces are left before it becomes a reality. But there's one thing in this vision that makes it stand out from any other I've had before.

Any other time I've had a vision of my own murder my face always looks the same when I finally die. It's unmistakable. Even after the shock, or fear, or confusion, or pleading, I always die with this regretful look on my face.

But not in that vision. Right before the man with the dirty blonde hair lays the pillow on my face, I look peaceful. I look ready. I look happy. I look like I know what is going to happen. Like a woman with no regrets. A woman who feels safe and listened to and has been loved for years and years and years. I look like I finally understand something that could never be explained.

I keep thinking about the way that I looked in that vision. In my entire 32 years of life, I have never felt anything close to what I have seen I could feel in my last moments alive. I never thought I would ever get to be happy. I’ve only ever imagined a deep, deep misery at the end of the line for me. As hopeless as it was lonely. I have spent my life convincing myself that my death would only be as painful and terrible as my life has always been. And I saw no way out. And I’ve tried to take my own way out. Multiple times.

I want to feel the way that I felt in that vision. And I know it's possible. No, it's guaranteed. All I have to do is accept it and not try to change the future that I’ve already seen. I can get all the things that I want in life, I just have to die. I want to be clear: I am terrified of dying. But I am more terrified of living a life that never gets to experience that one fleeting moment of happiness. I'd rather risk dying happy than survive being unhappy.

I don't know if you'd understand unless you've lived my life. I don't know if anyone could.

Full disclosure: I've found the dirty blonde man in my vision. I've been dating him for a year now. He's so funny, and kind, and he makes me feel so heard and supported. We've had ups and downs, but we always come back together to talk things out. I love him. I know he's the one.

I know he's the one.

I'm actually going to propose to him as soon as I'm done writing this. I'm going to offer him my Dad's wedding band, of course. I am pretty sure he's going to say yes. I'm both looking forward to it and dreading it at the same time.

EDIT: To all the people who keep downvoting me: that's not going to make me change my mind.

To all the people in the comments who have a gift that's like mine: thank you for sharing your story! I always hoped there'd be more people like me. Thank you for your support ♥️

To all the people in the comments who are telling me I'm crazy, or narcissistic, or that this is all simply a symptom of trauma... You aren't the first to tell me that.

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CoffeeBeanx3 t1_ixbn63w wrote

Maybe it's not murder when it finally happens. Maybe it's assisted suicide in a sloppy way (you might want to discuss the pillow method before it happens).

I have often discussed with my loved ones the situations where I'd want to be allowed to die, or maybe get help. I work in healthcare, as does my mum, so that's kind of just a thing nurses do. A lot of people don't discuss end of life plans until it's too late and their partner has to make a decision on their own.

So maybe just sit down, have that conversation before marrying him and putting your medical wellbeing in his hands, and even if it ends up being murder, maybe he'll get a nicer idea than the pillow. Because no matter how calm you looked in your vision, if you're not sedated when it happens you're going to struggle eventually and that's not a calm death.

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aphibacus192000 OP t1_ixbshl0 wrote

I appreciate this advice, but guys don't really take the whole "I know how this ends already" thing very well. And besides, I don't want to mess up the good thing I could have with him.

And that's fine, an intense (but hopefully brief) struggle might just be worth it for the life I could have with him.

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chronotrigs t1_ixc2izp wrote

Could be tough to get the conversation to the point you want, like 'So weird out of the blue thought... You know suffocating with pillows? Yeah, if I ever get assisted death, that's out'.

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CandiBunnii t1_ixc4mon wrote

My thoughts exactly!

I figured it was an aggressive terminal illness and she just wanted to go out on her own terms.

OP, did it look like you'd aged any significant amount in the vision?

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CandiBunnii t1_ixc5etn wrote

I know changing the future can be messy, but a little medical check up every couple months couldn't hurt if an illness Is the case.

Even if she can't change the outcome she can use the time she has left to the fullest!

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thCuba t1_ixc5vks wrote

Try to not use pillows at home

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Snow-13 t1_ixccw1p wrote

It's funny you say that, though. Because when I was dating my very first serious boyfriend, I actually asked him the question.... "If you had to kill me, how would you do it?" I was only 13 years old! Lol.

I remember that day quite vividly and it's been 31 years since that conversation took place. We were swimming in the pool in his backyard,the two of us, with one of my best girlfriends. Sun shining bright on that beautiful June day in 1992! I remember all of that, but don't ask me wtf I did last week, or even yesterday. Because I can't recall. Lol.

I have always had this macabre fascination with things. So, I genuinely wanted to know what he would do if he had to. It was an interesting answer, I think. Based on who I knew him to be at the time, and who he really is. Anyway, I'm tired and I'm getting myself sidetracked. Sorry.

He said he would do it painlessly, with some sort of medication to make me sleepy so that I would not feel a thing. That he would hold me close and keep me in his arms until I was gone. No pain, no struggle, just loved. We had to badger him for the answer, but he gave it.

I guess my rambling ass point is this, that it may seem like a weird thing to bring up in conversation. But, for me, that's just another normal topic for discussion. There's nothing weird about it coming from me. My friends and family know that, though.

Edited to add, so I would just bring it up casually, if I were OP. Can't be that weird. Unless OP hides all aspects of the gifts they possess. Personally, I don't. I'm open with most people in my life.

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M00N3YES t1_ixckc7q wrote

You might be insane for this

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Lord_SaviorLucifer t1_ixcxwdc wrote

I honestly have the same thing. Its in my dreams my mind fills in people with people I know at the time of my dreams but the situations are exactly the same. It keeps happening too I'll have a dream then usually a few months-years go by and the same exact thing happens (usually with different people) but it is constantly happening. Dreams ive had as a kid are happening to me now. (Hopefully the dreams where im a woman happen soon.)

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flamurmurro t1_ixczr09 wrote

Unconditional love. Premeditated spousal murder. Get you a man who can do both 🥵

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scotttilton t1_ixd2s8b wrote

I too am 32 years old and experienced the same thing on a regular basis. Once I realized years ago that what I was seeing in my dreams was a vision of the future or more precisely in my case a more than likely possible future, I started paying more attention to them. I agree that attempting to change the outcome usually results in far worse things happening. And I think it may be something to do with people like us when you refer to the feeling of unhappiness. I don’t even get excited about things anymore and it drives my wife absolutely crazy. Probably because although there’s this one exciting thing coming up I can list off a bunch of other less than exciting things that are coming. And to anyone else reading this who is like us don’t waste your time trying to end your own life. Something about this also makes us, I guess I would say immune to ending our own lives in away. It’s like we don’t have that option. Enjoy the time you do have with the man who will murder you and thank you for being brave enough to post this knowing that many people will just call you insane because they don’t understand and will never be able to.

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krik7 t1_ixdbhyr wrote

Go for it, but maybe make it painless and instant for you when you go? Have some plans ready for that too... All the best... 🙌🏻

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Sigeru10044 t1_ixdec5w wrote

This is literally the saying keep your enemies closer

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Dr_DMT t1_ixdlfq9 wrote

I don't know if you understand this but you are describing a narcissism with your psychic mind not an ability to "see future situations before they happen".

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TreeSlayer-Tak t1_ixdrkg4 wrote

I legit quit a Job because of this, had a nightmare I died in a breakroom, then no shit a year later I walked in to this new Job and BOOM the breakroom is identical to my dream. Didn't notice til my 3rd day but I noped out of there.

Thing was someone DID die in there, a week before I started working

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LeEpiclyUnepic t1_ixdxtzw wrote

I know you already agreed to talk to him about it, but just saying, deaths like that don't usually feel brief.

As someone who almost drowned, it's terrifying and probably the most uncomfortable you'll ever be in your life. And a few minutes can feel like an eternity when your body is fighting for its life.

Try something like sleeping pills, or any death that won't have you be conscious for it.

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jxssss t1_ixe7qco wrote

Man childhood trauma can cause some fucked up ways of thinking...

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RaisinFlat605 t1_ixe8owb wrote

Woah!…I thought I was the only one that did this…it’s not exactly like how you describe or necessarily as in depth but I have this ability too!…the visions come in my dreams…I was actually able to save the life of one of my children because of this…sadly, I don’t always have visions so I haven’t been able to prevent other traumatic things in my life but WOAH…I thought I was the only one and something was wrong with me😳

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Myfirstandlasttime t1_ixeea64 wrote

He thought he could live with her strange and intense fear of pillows, until one day he just snapped. " I just want one night of comfortable sleep," he whispered as he held the forbidden pillow over her face.

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greenkittiekat t1_ixeikzd wrote

I don’t think I’ve ever predicted someone’s death in a dream but I have what feel like deja vu sometimes.

I also have an irrational fear of drowning especially in open water 😬 so I either drowned in a past life or I’m going to drown in this one 😔 It’s awful because I can feel the water in my lungs and wake up almost throwing up foam. It’s like my body is going through the motions so if I’m doing anything physical my body will react, it’s great when I have sex in my dreams but awful when I have an accident or walk into something.

I do have good ones though so I hope those come true 🥰

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Surrealian t1_ixerq44 wrote

Maybe it’s an assisted suicide kinda thing and you’re terminally ill.

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tina_marie1018 t1_ixes52t wrote

Okay Sweetie we are going to need you to Please keep us updated. We can all throw out our ideas of why he will do what he will do. But we will need you to fill us in.

Please keep us updated.

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DirtMany1420 t1_ixf233u wrote

I really thought I was the only one that experienced this phenomenon. My mother used to tell me that my great grandmother used to ssy she could "see" things in her slumber that would certainly happen & play out to the last detail. I've had the experiences, trivial so far, but have always disregarded them as I don't linger or dwell on the things I'm seeing. Your story is heartening and horrifying at the same time (in some degree) but I thank you for putting that out in this space. Maybe I'm not as messed up as I believer myself to be.

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Otie1983 t1_ixf2jfi wrote

While ideally, yeah, I hope she has many years to go… terminal illness can strike at any age… that said, if it were a terminal illness that early intervention could help with… regular check ups and testing could make this whole thing a moot point

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LurkethInTheMurketh t1_ixf2xjx wrote

Have you considered the possibility that that moment of happiness before you die is based entirely on your believing this is the only way to experience happiness? From the way you described it, it sounds like you eventually convince him to kill you in order to bring this to pass. The emphasis on this end as being your goal will create a fatal lust for result. I wouldn’t be surprised if you became desperate for it if you make it a focus of your life as you are.

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Flimsy_Wait_8235 t1_ixf51v8 wrote

I loved this so much, so beautiful, in a morbid way. Agh I want to know so bad why he killed her, and why she looked so understanding in her final moments!

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justajacob t1_ixf74tg wrote

Did you consider the very likely possibility that she lied and you actually saw the affair?

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OctopusProbably t1_ixf8btk wrote

Maybe living throughout your marriage will bring you a longer, equivalent (or even better) peace and happiness!

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aphibacus192000 OP t1_ixfbttp wrote

Thank you for your concern, but I'm a grown woman, and I know what I'm choosing. People are saying nice things left and right to me, and some of them are even claiming to know what it's like to be me. But after spending my life always running away from what's coming, it's such a relief to finally be able to walk into the future willingly. At least this future I'm not alone.

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RobinTheTraveler t1_ixfc56h wrote

I have similar visions when I asleep

they're always boring everyday things though :(

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just_ordinary_guy t1_ixfd4q5 wrote

Our mind is more powerful than we think. I don't know peeping into future is possible or not. But few people can actually see the big picture or deduce the whole from only small portion of it. Yes, like jigsaw puzzle you can know how it will end by looking at few pieces but you never know until it happens, it might differ a little.

Life is like Schrodinger's cat. Things happen or things don't happen when you open the box. But what if the box is never opened, cat will die eventually. There is no escape.

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leagueoflesbian t1_ixffy45 wrote

My fiancée has an extremely similar gift and it’s a heavy one to bear at times. Wishing you peace and love and as much softness as possible, love.

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tina_marie1018 t1_ixfimpl wrote

Oh Hunny I completely understand how you feel. Everyone puts up with something in their Relationships that they Never Imagined they would. I know I do.

I was just asking you to Please let us know if you find out what makes Your Person, the person who is your "one", Murder you, while he has tears in his eyes.

Until he Murders you, I hope y'all's life together is Magical.

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randauum t1_ixfjm8h wrote

You said he was teary eyed, so maybe it was assisted suicide of some kind? With the way you're speaking I don't think you can handle seeing what you see for much longer, so maybe think about that

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MetalChimera t1_ixfuie2 wrote

This could be wrong but sometimes Im aware Im about to experience de ja vu and then I do. I feel like the multiverse theory is correct and it has something to do with this type of phenomenon.

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maasnet t1_ixfxido wrote

Whoa. Can this be murder or euthanasia? I realize you say you can't really change the future, but maybe you should consider leaving this guy & moving to another city to start a new life. I realize this guy you met is fun but there are other fun people in the world. Nobody is expected to be happy 100% of the time. Think of yourself as a profound person & screw the people who want you to be a Pollyanna. Roll the dice & start a new life. I'm not afraid to die at all but you can do better than death by pillow. In my vision you have more people from different backgrounds who will be caring friends/lover to you & no death by pillow.

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derkpip t1_ixg1pcb wrote

I totally believe u. I had a vision of this exact subreddit in 1977. I know only you will believe me because people like us never lie about anything.

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JustinChristoph t1_ixg9al8 wrote

Perhaps she is badly injured in an accident and is in a coma that the doctors say she is too brain damaged to come out of and that she is in constant pain... and her husband puts her out of her misery because he loves her.

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JustinChristoph t1_ixgboo4 wrote

Would you rather die knowing that you were being murdered by your loved one because he hated you or wanted you out of the way because he didn't want to be inconvenienced by you... or because he loved you and wanted to spare you the rest of your live living in pain with zero hope of it ending while you still lived?

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Worish t1_ixgmmgj wrote

Don't trust the blonde. He knows.

I was like you. There's a reason you felt different about this one.

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lisiantto t1_ixh37mr wrote

maybe because your visions will turn into some kind of dangerous power somehow, and the both of you know you have to die to stop this. the good thing is: it appears to happen after you lived a happy life.

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Dr_DMT t1_ixh3m0l wrote

In terms of clinical psychology none of us are future seeing psychics.

Our minds have a predisposition to searching for patterns so if you are seeing "patterns" or perhaps having ideas of tragedy as a future event it is a reflection of your own personal interpretation of the world whether or not those events happen "a narcissism". Statistically any single one of us can make an accurate prediction because of the infinite possibilities of life and all of those predictions will have a human understanding or some reality in it as they are based on this pattern searching survival technique evolution left our brains with and human language or interpretations in general.

A lot of people will read the original post and think wow "your instinct is telling you something" but what I see is a narcissism in its defined character. A person holding on to a belief that they can "see the future" and in holding on to that belief is following a pattern of their minds creation that's leading them to the emotions or the feelings of being super natural. Or a grand delusion.

Is it healthy? Idk. But when someone comes to me with "omens" or "conspiracies" I definitely have to question ones belief systems as reality almost never aligns with their beliefs. Included in the mix is a lot of self seeking behavior. A lot of people I encounter with these supernatural belief systems end up creating turmoil for themselves so they can feel right about their omens.

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Any_Ad_9782 t1_ixii3ag wrote

Do you ever experience seeing happy, beautiful things to come in the future? Or are they always sad or scary? It seems youre taking on such heavy responsibility by having these visions to try to protect others. Obviously you're not consciousnessly choosing this.

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aphibacus192000 OP t1_ixmtaue wrote

This reminds me of something that happened maybe ten years ago:

I had a vision that I was laughing, having a wonderful time with my first boyfriend. We were sharing an ice cream cone, and I was teasing him about how big of a bite he ate off of my ice cream. He actually apologized in the vision, and I could tell he meant it.

That vision made me feel like I could trust him. So I told him about my gift.

We never went on that date. Or any date after that.

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