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ThrowawayYEAH22223 t1_j93hlko wrote

OP, I’m really trying to feel sympathy for you. I really am. But I can’t. You didn’t bring all of this upon yourself, but you did play a part. You only ended your affair AFTER you found out your wife had cancer. You would have continued on if this never happened? What baffles me is all throughout this you haven’t begged and pleaded for forgiveness, that’d be the first thing I’d try after running away. I’d be grovelling at that things feet from behind the door right now.

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An_Obscurity_Nodus OP t1_j93n5pb wrote

You're right. This was absolutely a terrible, hideous mistake on my part and I take full responsibility for that. I mistakenly thought that ending my affair and caring for my wife through her sickness was making amends, but you're right, that is not the same as begging forgiveness. I'm going to try to beg forgiveness through the door between us, my fear is if I open the door, it will absolutely kill me before I have a chance to even open my mouth.

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czymjq t1_j94f17e wrote

I'm pretty sure it will be a lot slower death than that. I'd worry about the order in which things will either, shrivel, decay, and drop off, as well.

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Thailia t1_j98miu4 wrote

In fact, He was about to end it until cancer became present. Justice is an amazing dessert.

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Lanky-Truck6409 t1_j95hyac wrote

Oh come on, he did intend on ending it clearly, and then stuck it like a good husband. People make mistakes, people fall în and out of love and it's hard to break up a marriage just like that, it's a few months after 10 years of marriage in a bad time and he did break it off to fulfil his vows (and intended to grow the balls to divorce.) People get crushes when married, it makes sense to not break off the marriage over it until you know for sure it's more than a crush.

Cheating is awful, but it also has nuances.

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