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_Mach___ t1_j98tlbx wrote

Literally. You don't even have an excuse for being shitty, you're just shitty.

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No_Composer_6040 t1_j99xuxd wrote

Yes! Exactly!

At least with grandma, she was traumatized by war and coping poorly- not a good situation, but I can understand her behavior a bit. Not making excuses as child abuse is never justified, but I can understand why someone who went through what she did drank.

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JerichoVTrapps t1_j9fb8rt wrote

And I can understand why someone raised by a bitter drunk would grow up to have no idea how to parent/love their own children later in life. It’s a viscous cycle.

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No_Composer_6040 t1_j9h4ndj wrote

Perhaps, but you’d think they’d have a bit of empathy- it sucked when my mom beat me, maybe I shouldn’t do that to my own children.

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ema2324 t1_j9sillt wrote

You have the best point of all. Break the cycle! Why would someone who went through that abuse inflict the same on their child! I get some people get bitter and evil because of it but why doesn’t everyone get like that then? It has a lot to do with who you are as a person deep down no matter what was done to you. I hope you are happier now x

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No_Composer_6040 t1_j9skygp wrote

Thank you! I still don’t understand it, but some people are just messed up. I swore I’d never do the same and it’s one of the (many) reasons I don’t want/will never have kids.

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