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immalittlepiggy t1_j00lfke wrote

So, I used to work in a restaurant and every time we’d hire a new person I’d ask them what music they like so I could throw some onto the kitchen playlist. We had a woman of color start working for us that liked a lot of music similar to this band, and one of this bands songs was playing at the time, so I asked “Are you into Slaves?”

Of course they’d change the name AFTER I embarrassed myself like that.

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quitofilms OP t1_j00m42f wrote

She's likely telling that same story and having a laugh at you (in a good way) being embarrassed since she likely knew the band...

I, as a person of color, had someone say that, to motivate me, they were going to whip me...

Awkward eye moment

They said "I cannot believe I said that"

They didn't mean it in a racial manner just like you didn't

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DauthIeikr t1_j00p4bj wrote

I had a coworker a couple jobs ago who had a nasty habit of working off the clock. Free labor to the company. I didn't think about it before saying "are you trying to be a slave" (or smth to that effect) and it didn't hit me till the drive home. I will think about this when trying to sleep for the next 20 to 40 years.

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Isthisworking2000 t1_j014phq wrote

I can’t speak with the experience of a non-white person, but it SEEMS like it wouldn’t be a big deal. They were right to change it, but only because it was just an awful name.

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Shazbot42069 t1_j03f4xz wrote

Man, that's a shower thought moment they'll have to enjoy for the next 70 years.

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Opivy84 t1_j00yqmz wrote

I told a black coworker that something respectable he did was mighty white of him. I had heard someone in some fucking show say it, and for some ungodly reason it categorized in my head as a generally nice thing to say. Obviously, as soon as I heard the words in the open air, I froze. I apologized to the 3 people present and explained how I never said that phrase before and had just regurgitated some random shit. We turned it into a convo about unconscious racism and programming. The guy was super cool about it, we’re decent friends now, but I still die inside every time I think about it.

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Liet-Kinda t1_j02ffkd wrote

Ooooof, that’s the kind of thing that makes you want to leap screaming into a mine shaft 20 years later.

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Opivy84 t1_j02jfsa wrote

Yeah, especially because my grandparents were pretty racist, that side of the family fought on the wrong side in the civil war, so I’ve always been hyper conscious of not spewing that same vitriol.

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Liet-Kinda t1_j02m1ar wrote

Same story here. My grandfather dropped hard-R n-bombs well into the 1990s.

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somereallyfungi t1_j083vd0 wrote

I only use that phrase sarcasticly. "Oh, you took our seats" "Sorry" "Mighty white of you"

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