no, people in their 40s physically attracted to 18-20 year old adults are attracted to them because of their physical beauty that has not diminished with age, all their parts are still firm and in the proper place. This goes for both men and cougars checking out the muscled college boys with 6-pack abs alike. They are much more attractive than their 40 year old counterparts with skin damage, joint pains, beer guts, sagging breasts (on both men & women), stretch marks, saddlebags and wrinkles. The eyes you have at 20 you still have at 40. You can still distinguish that Jenna Ortega at 20 years old is still more attractive than 99.999% of 40 year old women you will see. You can see this at 20 years old and 40 years old all the same.

You're kind of a weirdo to associate attraction to adults at the peak of their physical beauty with sexual kinks, power issues, etc. People are physically attracted to what they find pleasing to the eye.

If someone were to pursue relationships with these much younger people, you may have some kind of point as being far past our primes of physical beauty all we really have to offer is money, etc. creating a power dynamic. That's not what you said though. Your post seems to be about your delusion that you suddenly begin finding belly fat, cellulite, skin damage, wrinkles and sagging body parts attractive as you get older and it's somehow weird that men and women don't.