mikeybagodonuts t1_ixo2zx3 wrote on November 24, 2022 at 11:04 PM

Reply to comment by elcd in A paramedic fought to save a crash victim, not knowing it was her daughter by ComfortableFactor1

Oh I I didn’t miss the point at all. You made yourself quite clear. I’m not deflecting responsibility. I’m giving a possible reason. And you come back with the fact that I am autistic as well and your opinion is wrong how we supposed to teach people anything by just calling him a scumbag why not instead just go hey that’s totally inappropriate and if you’d like to have a discussion about it I will tell you why.

elcd t1_ixo47ma wrote on November 24, 2022 at 11:14 PM

You did, because it seems your reading comprehension is off sunshine.

I never called anyone a shitty human being. I never called anyone personally a scumbag. I said autism is not an excuse for being a scumbag.

In fact, the only person who called someone anything derogatory in our discourse is you with your little adhominem attack on me.

The original post was deleted before I responded to you.

mikeybagodonuts t1_ixo73ps wrote on November 24, 2022 at 11:39 PM

I never made an excuse for the comment but gave a potential reason for it. You’re the one drawing the conclusion that I was making an excuse. I never excused the behaviour but offered a reason and here you are disputing the potential cause. You seem to agree that the response to ops original and now deleted comment was wholly appropriate. If that’s the way you like to be corrected about your social misgivings more power to you.

JibletHunter t1_ixocu87 wrote on November 25, 2022 at 12:29 AM

Just take the L and pack it in. You are being pedantic to avoid confronting the valid point of elcd.

elcd t1_ixoemhl wrote on November 25, 2022 at 12:45 AM

Thanks for backing me up mate.

It seems the "I'm autistic so I can be inappropriate without consequence" narrative is much easier to follow that taking responsibility and not being a shitty person.

It's not easy, it wasn't for me, but it's doable. Empathy is learnable, social skills are skills that can be honed (even if sometimes it's camoflaging) and being a good person is possible even when you're abilities are impeded.

I see people romanticising mental illness and pandering to everyone who's a little bit different now; looks like taking responsbility for your shit is just in the too hard basket for people these days.

mikeybagodonuts t1_ixofudl wrote on November 25, 2022 at 12:56 AM

Ohhhhh. So there it is. I did it so everyone else with the same or more extreme impediments should be able to. And if they can’t learn or are not properly taught they’re bad people. Once again you are framing my initial reply to the comment as an excuse for bad behaviour. Totally devoid of empathy for the way the op was spoken to. You might wanna do a little more work on your empathy.