Dalisca t1_jeaamaa wrote on March 30, 2023 at 3:45 PM

Reply to comment by bandit69 in No jail time for Kuna couple convicted of felony child abuse by Fit_Ad8096

Foster care gives you money from the state. Adoption costs a lot of money and the financial benefit is a tax break (just like any other kid), but the tax break doesn't come close to covering the cost of the child. It's baffling.

[deleted] t1_jeavmlf wrote on March 30, 2023 at 5:59 PM

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bandit69 t1_jebgt3k wrote on March 30, 2023 at 8:14 PM

We attempted to adopt a young girl one time and due to the lack of caring from the social worker, we gave up. But we did have one worker tell us that "if she was in <x> foster care home, she was abused.

Sure the vast majority of foster care parents are probably good, but there are those that do it strictly for the money. AND, I've personally been acquainted with parents that didn't give a shit about their own kids.

dittybopper_05H t1_jeecspi wrote on March 31, 2023 at 12:19 PM

>I've personally been acquainted with parents that didn't give a shit about their own kids.

Being a foster parent, so have I.

In fact, just being an active parent, I've seen it. When the littlebopper was young, and there were school events, you always knew which kids had parents that didn't care because they didn't show up to the school events.

And having been in family court more times than I can count, it always dumbfounded me how people showed up dressed for court. Spandex pants or dirty, torn jeans. T-shirts, often inappropriate. I mean, you're going before a judge who has the power to permanently rip your family apart, and you can't be bothered to go to the local thrift store like Goodwill or the Salvation Army and buy some presentable clothes for the cost of a pack of cigarettes and a 40 oz beer?

I always wore basically my work clothes, decent slacks and a button down shirt. Except on Adoption Day, when I wore my suit and the distaffbopper wore a nice dress.