Spoonloops t1_j8s8aik wrote on February 16, 2023 at 4:14 PM

Reply to comment by thetruetrueu in Little evidence to support health claims made on formula milk by Dodomando

It feels like this is the current "mom scene" in a nut shell. After my first I left all the "support" groups for moms because its such a toxic competition over everything. Doesnt matter what they do, moms (and Dads!) get picked apart and shamed. Obviously there's some actual dangerous practices that deserve it, but the bulk of it is just ridiculous.

thetruetrueu t1_j8safn9 wrote on February 16, 2023 at 4:29 PM

It was appalling and watching my wife feel so much anguish over it was just jaw dropping. She actually was developing terrible mastitis and did not realize it until it was emergency room time because she was trying to ‘push through’.

I was just so oblivious to how much competition and stress are in those circles.

Its a privilege to have a smooth birth and breastfeeding experience. We did not have either and were made to feel like we did something wrong.

Spoonloops t1_j8sd6wu wrote on February 16, 2023 at 4:47 PM

People forget not that long ago something like 2 out 5 kids didn't make it to their 3rd birthday. Infant and toddler deaths where very high. We have alot of tools now to prevent this. My youngest was born with a rare defect that used to have a 98% mortality rate, now its unheard of for a baby to die from it because of a simple surgery and some intervention at birth. Now he gets to live a perfectly normal (whatever that is) life like it never happened. I just can't get my head around these super privileged moms who got lucky trying to pretend modern medical and feeding advancements are evil and being cruel to other moms about it.