I lived in both Somerville and New Brunswick, so I'm very familiar with the area! Raritan isn't that nice tbh. The area surrounding it is all very suburban. But Somerville down town, has some good bar spots and nice restaurants. Some things to do, but not a whole lot compared to SF. There are a lot of new apartments that are nice, and many more comping up on Main Street Somerville though. New Brunswick has some great food spots, but it's very much a college town. If you're wandering the downtown area, its mostly college students. Certain areas can be nice but if you live there, you'd hit the worse traffic during rush hour going to and from work on rt 287. However, both somerville and New Brunswick has very easy ways to access NYC which ofc has everything you could want to do. I would recommend living in Somerville downtown if you'd like a shorter commute to work. Morristown is also a great spot to live and the commute won't be two bad. If you have other questions, feel free to ask here or message me!