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beaveristired t1_j06rcud wrote

There are some social (not hookup) meetups / munches listed on fetlife. Idk if The Society in Hartford has found a new space yet but they used go host a lot of events. You can find them on fetlife. There are some local rope / bondage groups as well.

You could try Feeld app. Of the traditional dating apps, OkCupid seems the most kink-friendly.

NYC is also an option and tbh that’s where I do most of my dating. Boston, Providence, Western MA, Hudson Valley are also good nearby options.

Dating in CT absolutely sucks. I’m a queer women but I think it’s worse for straight women. It’s just a barren wasteland according to friends.

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hanginglimbs t1_j071w7n wrote

Everyone everywhere says the place they live sucks for dating. Especially NYC. I think people just are largely not that interesting and when you start meeting a lot of people, you realize that quickly

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beaveristired t1_j075qsm wrote

That’s definitely true everywhere. But it does seem like especially slim pickings here in CT. Lots of married people with families. It’s easier in New Haven than surrounding towns because there are always new, often younger people moving here. Outside of New Haven, it’s pretty dull, though. The joke along my friend group is you either set your radius for 1-2 miles, or you set it 72 miles to include NYC. (Also cuts down on the LI match suggestions - close yet so, so far.) Being queer, I’m used to traveling for dates. The sheer amount of matches in NYC is overwhelming. You’re right, though, most of them likely aren’t very interesting. But at least there’s more options (and fewer unicorn hunters, I swear every third profile in CT is a couple looking for a third).

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