I'd definitely recommend coming up and driving around a bit to see the different towns suggested. I think Orange/Woodbridge or Madison/Guilford (though farther from Whole Foods) fit the bill, but I also want to mention that Connecticut suburbia is very different from Virginia. There aren't a lot of subdivisions here,l; the towns themselves are older (though Woodbridge and Orange don't have much of a town like Guilford and Madison do) bit then outside of that the houses are a lot more spread out. A lot of these areas are wooded with no sidewalks. I have one coworker who lives on a neighborhood in Orange where kids can walk to friends' houses, but that is not common. Again not sure if that's something you want, but wanted to make that distinction.