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the-little-furmaid t1_jc0abjb wrote

Congrats on nearly 100 days alcohol free 🤘🏼

Groups tend to lean toward an older demographic. I am not sure what age-range you are looking for. I am sure are some substance free meetups in your area, like hiking groups and intramural sports. Not sure if that is your jam! If people go out for a drink afterwards, you can always excuse yourself beforehand.

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roundeye2020 t1_jc0br4x wrote

It's really hard to just excuse yourself when you are enjoying the company and you are an addict. 100 days in I would probably relapse. Not trying to dig on you, just highlighting the danger in that statement from the perspective of an addict in recovery.

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the-little-furmaid t1_jc0djl2 wrote

I am in recovery. But you are right; in the early days of sobriety a person can easily fall into old habits when they haven’t properly developed the right coping skills.

OP should probably find a mental health counselor who specializes in SUD; they can probably direct OP towards whatever resources they need.

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roundeye2020 t1_jc52moo wrote

I have 10 years off the sauce, and I still have my ups and downs. A good therapist is hard to find these days. Do you have any recommendations? I went to a work event recently and I have not been that close to the edge in a while. I was ready to throw it all away. Nutz right. I promptly left the event, but it sucked to be on the outside. People think after time it gets easier but for me the work continues. Some days I'm good and I want to be in that type of environment "bars ect.". I guess to prove a point to myself. Other days I need to lock myself indoors because I just don't trust myself.

Shout out to everyone here in the struggle. I wish you all well and feel your pain 100%. Nothing worth it in life comes easy so I just keep getting after sobriety and make it a priority.

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the-little-furmaid t1_jc7jvzg wrote

I do not have recommendations for specific therapists, although I do recommend folks check their insurance about virtual options. I realize not everyone is interested in therapy through a screen, but many insurances have partnered with virtual therapy providers and waived copays due to the pandemic.

Additionally, being honest with others about your sobriety can be a game changer. Sharing to your comfort level with colleagues and friends can increase your own accountability (assuming these people are prosocial supports).

Personally, I have also downloaded the app “I am Sober” and have personalize it to include images and mottos to keep me motivated. Also r/stopdrinking … it’s a great subreddit to join.

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