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drmariomaster t1_jedclh7 wrote

I feel like there should be a different color for hugs. I'm okay with an occasional hand shake or high five but I don't like hugging strangers.

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matt6342 t1_jedjkla wrote

Yes especially at a business conference

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Born_ina_snowbank t1_jeejg2h wrote

“I wanted to introduce you to our VP of finance.”

VP of finance looks at you, smiles, hugs you tight and kisses your neck

“Pleasure to meet you” VP says as he pats you on the ass.

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Xeludon t1_jeempc2 wrote

🤣🤣🤣 that made me laugh out loud.

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cfdeveloper t1_jeeyzbw wrote

I'd like to imagine this was a conversation between trump and pence.

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cacklz t1_jeekrbs wrote

Orange: “I’m not scared of germs, but you just kinda creep me out. No touchy.”

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SafetyMan35 t1_jeem3xd wrote

Hugs and “what happens at the conference stays at the conference” encounters. Because it happens at many of them.

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elliotloudermilk t1_jef8tg9 wrote

Yeah that’s a crazy escalation. No touching and no talking. Then ok with talking and BAM! Coming in for hugs.

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daft__cunt t1_jed7i9r wrote

Purple for full penetration?

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vorpalglorp t1_jeejm14 wrote

I was looking for purple as well. Does it matter if you are the one doing or being penetrated? Maybe they should be different colors? Purple and dark purple?

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mikemojc t1_jeg2ezk wrote

Baby steps; Blue is
" Assume positive consent given for any kind of surface physical contact, including body fluids."

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LordJebusVII t1_jedyb6q wrote

Why are hugs and handshakes the same comfort level? I assume this is for Covid but even then you can wash/sanitise your hands after a handshake but not for a hug.

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connorthedancer t1_jeelfbv wrote

Speak for yourself. I hug people and then belly flop in a vat of ethanol when I get home.

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Illustrious-Scar-526 t1_jefnlld wrote

I had a boss who would stand out near the entrance of the restaurant, right next to the host stand, and lather him self up with a bottle of rubbing alcohol to help him cool down. It was the strangest thing I have ever seen, and the guest tables and the bar were within reaching distance of him. The host table was outside on a deck, in the south, so it got really hot. Everyone would watch, not knowing if they should be confused, disgusted, or just ignore it because he did it almost every day. His arms and legs looked like he was moisturizing with rubbing alcohol too.

But I can't argue that it doesn't work to cool down.

Also, would love to hear the opinion of someone with some medical knowledge on this. This can't be good for him lol

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connorthedancer t1_jefuyi9 wrote

>some medical knowledge

I have no medical knowledge. But I've made my own cologne and I read that it's bad to use rubbing alcohol for fragrances so I can't imagine that would be good for you in such copious amounts.

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Illustrious-Scar-526 t1_jeg9ziy wrote

His arms and legs made the Nevada desert look like a rainforest. More cracks than the grand canyon. But at least he wasn't too hot lol

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Equivalent_Ad1362 t1_jed83vd wrote

I just imagine a bunch of creepy middle aged guys waking around with green looking for women to hug

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SalmonNgiri t1_jeeglrc wrote

That was exactly what I was thinking, and so people don’t assume that about me I would end up getting yellow, even though I’m actually okay with handshakes lol

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PrestigiousAd6281 t1_jedb03a wrote

Can I get a red for all eternity while in public?

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patchinthebox t1_jeee9bh wrote

Same. Not because I'm worried about getting sick. I just don't like other people.

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HardCounter t1_jeeeok1 wrote

Oh, this is about getting sick? Honestly just thought it was a social comfort level thing.

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Zenpai_Iza t1_jefdrcn wrote

I dont want people to get sick of me but at the same time, I hate people mostly when they are too friendly.

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ljinbs t1_jef6kmz wrote

I’ve always had a 3 foot rule so I’m all for this.

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ProperOperation t1_jee5dl3 wrote

For people concerned about the hugging: at conferences like these, people tend to go every year and from all over (I see this is a California-specific conference so probably not all over as in people attending from North Dakota, but California is a big state so picture all over being from the north to the south of the state) so this may be the first time you’ve seen an old friend/acquaintance in a while. A hug as a greeting wouldn’t be unheard of or inappropriate in this setting.

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Henwen t1_jeesaht wrote

Yeah that was my take too. Not randomly hugging people, but being open to hugs from people you normally would be, in the pandemic situation.

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Apprehensive-Cry-342 t1_jedc80e wrote

I wore the red as I'm absolutely not comfortable with hugging in a professional setting.

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teeth990 t1_jedenfc wrote

Instructions unclear: grabbed one of each and lit up a joint. Now wandering around the conference.

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feralbones t1_jedouuk wrote

Back in my day the general rule was to (aside from extending a handshake) keep your hands to yourself.

Isn't this how people get in trouble nowadays? I feel like a green bracelet isn't going to justify an unwanted hug misconstrued as a sexual advance.

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MrSkynfloot t1_jedrl55 wrote

Where the “touch my no no square” bracelet?

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lunedeu t1_jedy125 wrote

I like that. I wish everyone would wear this. Red for me. Yellow on occasion.

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SprinklesMore8471 t1_jee4ht6 wrote

This just seems so weird to me. I'd rather let people be people

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Aztecman02 t1_jeg5k56 wrote

Humans have mouths and ways to express their comfort level without these passive aggressive colors. I think this is more of an indictment of social media and younger generations not actually learning how to have appropriate social interactions with others in real life.

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Cerulean_IsFancyBlue t1_jeezwlf wrote

As people, we have social skills and intelligence, and I feel like this is the deploying those in a great combination to let everybody be comfortable with or without consensual physical contact.

It’s also possible that you meant, “I have no discomfort around this, so I don’t see why it’s worth the trouble.” In which case, ok cool. You’re why we have wristbands.

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SprinklesMore8471 t1_jef0m6c wrote

I see this as a way to not use your social skills and to further disassociate people. I prefer people communicate than wear a sign saying stay away. But to each their own.

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SoraUsagi t1_jeg9pep wrote

I mean... The wrist band IS communication. Not your preferred method and that's fine. I tend to be open to engage in conversation and a handshake, but I will not be the one to initiate. But I also know that some of the associates that our business conferences are incredibly shy, but since attendance was mandatory they're there anyway. I would really appreciate something like this for them. They would engage even though they don't want to because they're afraid of being rude

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jlm_pix t1_jee7w5a wrote

I was genuinely hoping the pandemic was going to put an end to the whole weird handshake thing forever. I know people who transitioned to the elbow-bump thing and it was always all I could not to say "Hey, you know we could just... not insist on touching each other for no reason, right?"

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Cerulean_IsFancyBlue t1_jeeznlo wrote

Physical contact is part of standard getting and bonding for many humans. The problem is when we either weaponize it (handshake grip contests) or when we, once again, impose the “normative” model on everybody.

I wonder what it would be like if I grew up in a culture where men routinely did the air kiss thing to each other or held hands in public as friends. Would it have changed my attitude towards contact and made me more of a touchy person? Or would my life just be even more uncomfortable than it is now?

Anyway. I like stuff like these bands, because it allows people to set their own boundaries in a way that other people can see and understand. It’s also a reminder that when you are dealing with other people, it’s worth stopping and thinking about those things, even when you’re not in the situation with wristbands. Look for cues. Go slowly.

I don’t think we’re going to change some peoples basic desire for physical contact as part of a greeting. What we can do is, normalize consent and normalize respect.

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Aztecman02 t1_jeg54jc wrote

There is nothing weird about handshakes. Humans are social creatures and touching/embracing is part of that. Handshakes have been part of human culture for thousands of years. I think it’s more weird that people need these passive aggressive colors to let others know they don’t want to interact.

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jlm_pix t1_jeg6n3n wrote

Whether or not handshakes are “weird” is an entirely subjective opinion based on your personal views and related to how and where you were raised. It’s a little interesting to me that you’ve conflated what is a polite way to indicate a dislike for physical contact with strangers without rebuffing a handshake nobody thinks to ask for ahead of time with a “passive aggressive” way to not interact.

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Aztecman02 t1_jeg8doj wrote

To me it is passive aggressive and it’s probably an extension of social media culture. People haven’t learned how to interact with strangers in the real world. Somehow humans figured out how to communicate their want/or not of a handshake for hundreds and thousands of years without a color reference palate. It takes something away from social interactions if your body language can’t do the talking and instead you just have some color label to express your emotions/desires.

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SoraUsagi t1_jegbd0i wrote

Not accepting an offered handshake is considered rude. There is no way around that. And I'm perfectly fine with them myself. But there are plenty of people who don't want to shake your hand but do so anyway so they don't appear rude.

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jlm_pix t1_jeg9lk2 wrote

I don’t know who offended you by not wanting to shake your hand, but I’m not as committed to working out this issue here as you are. So I’m just gonna go ahead and nod and smile.

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ThaumKitten t1_jeek7tf wrote

And you know there's gonna be that one guy who just completely ignores the color coding and invades your personal space anyway. :/

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ProperOperation t1_jeffr2g wrote

I attended a conference with this color coding late last summer. I wore yellow, and a mask as I was uncomfortable being in a convention center with that many people still. A woman tried to sit in the seat next to mine, in the back row of a mostly empty auditorium that sat at least 500 people, and gave me so much attitude when I politely asked her not to. 🤷‍♀️

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ProperOperation t1_jeffufv wrote

I attended a conference with this color coding late last summer. I wore yellow, and a mask as I was uncomfortable being in a convention center with that many people still. A woman tried to sit in the seat next to mine, in the back row of a mostly empty auditorium that sat at least 500 people, and gave me so much attitude when I politely asked her not to. 🤷‍♀️

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Mustang46L t1_jeemlkb wrote

Can I get a red for each wrist?

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sxott t1_jef35tg wrote

I threw a party years ago and handed out glow bracelets. Green for single, yellow for “it’s complicated” and red for taken. The theme was “Kiss & Tell”. It was fun!

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anotheroneBUD t1_jefladd wrote

You bubble kids. Holy fuck

Get some them they so no one is left out

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berb00 t1_jeg13c8 wrote

I don’t want that

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T1S9A2R6 t1_jegb1yv wrote

We live in a society of people afraid of their own shadows. Yay, progress.

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Fluffy-Edge-6065 t1_jee45ua wrote

I’m ok with a handshake, but I don’t like hugs and don’t like people that pat backs, put hands on shoulder or any other form of social touching.

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amy5252 t1_jee6c29 wrote

Omg at that point stay the hell home!

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SoraUsagi t1_jegbu5g wrote

Really? That's a little extreme, don't you think? I can want to socialize and be at an event without also wanting you to touch me. Basically what you're saying is "conform to my standards, or stay home ".

I'm perfectly fine talking to people i don't know and accepting a handshake. But I'm also not stupid enough to think everyone is the same way.

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UNSECURE_ACCOUNT t1_jeegwll wrote

Good God human beings have devolved quickly over my short lifetime

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Bluechip506 t1_jeeoe9q wrote

As a color blind person this would be very confusing. I can tell the difference on the chart between the top and bottom color (guessing red/green) but out in the wild, a single color on someones wrist would be very difficult to distinguish. I would just grab the middle (yellow?) and cue off of everyone else's actions.

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Allyxander60 t1_jef1rrs wrote

Omgggggg I need this for my everyday life. It has nothing to do with Covid 😂

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DoctorMobius21 t1_jeffr8e wrote

I am autistic but I’d take a green any day. Hugs are strictly on a mutual consent basis though.

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Meanteenbirder t1_jefovhs wrote

Not uncommon at all especially in California. Went to a conference last month and had the exact same things.

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LowProof7648 t1_jegkhss wrote

Wouldn’t have believed this had I not seen the words ‘California’ and ‘Schools’ at the top.

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Jorcora t1_jedxo6n wrote

Are we becoming more and more stupid? Have we forgotten to read/show corporal expression in real life? Life is not a chat where you need emojis or gadgets to show your emotions.

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lunedeu t1_jedy834 wrote

No, but when you have to signal no contact constantly to many people it is best to just say it once and have it respected. I wish no contact was the baseline norm everywhere so I dont have to impose it for others.

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Cerulean_IsFancyBlue t1_jef0xb1 wrote

People have always signaled through their clothing and accessories. Team colors, mourning attire, flag pin in the lapel, spiky mohawk, political buttons, “rebel” beret, jeans to the board meeting, religious necklace, “I voted”, wedding ring, school tie, MAGA hat, pussy hat.

“New thing bad” + half-ass justification, is no way to go through life.

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Corgifarm9 t1_jeeobu5 wrote

May sound illogical, but same concept as the old covid rules

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inkseep1 t1_jeeoomu wrote

I think I saw a party video with different types of bracelets.

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ElderProphets t1_jeeuup4 wrote

A direct cultural appropriation of the gay hanky code. < /s>

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I_pinchyou t1_jeeuvvl wrote

Can I have a red band for daily life 😅

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Sandwich_dad96 t1_jeevadr wrote

I’m okay with people handshake if with me and hi-fiving me, I just don’t want them hugging me. Yuck. This is r/crappydesign

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Sweet_Coat7963 t1_jeexqjg wrote

Ok, I think we're ready for that meteorite so we can start over fresh.

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kie7an t1_jef38zf wrote

Get rid of elbows and swap that to handshake

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anengineerandacat t1_jef6tsp wrote

Need like a one between green that says "I am okay with handshakes, not hugs"... I ain't hugging a random stranger y'all weird as hell.

I don't know you, I don't know if you smell bad and I don't want to find out, I also don't want you touching me in a way you can sneak around and grab my bum from.

#nohugs

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Spiritual-Wind-3898 t1_jefb6rg wrote

So can i wear one of these all the time.. on the daily.

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SoraUsagi t1_jegcbqk wrote

Of course you can. You're a strong, independent individual. Just don't expect anyone to know what it means :p

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melanthius t1_jeffu7p wrote

They need a color for “willing to break awkward silence to ask questions during Q&A” And “willing to get hyped when the emcee tries to hype up the crowd with the ‘I can’t hear you!!!’ type of shit”

If you’re on stage and don’t see those two colors in the audience, then just don’t do that crap.

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bearslikeapples t1_jeffvq4 wrote

Stupid and idiotic. Crazy someone got paid to do this shit

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Guillaume_Hertzog t1_jeffyxx wrote

And the yellow bracelet is for those who instantely implode after making eye contact with anyone

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DebiMoonfae t1_jefi6fd wrote

Awesome, cover me in red ribbons

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DustinBrungart t1_jefjoh3 wrote

This is precisely why I wore green trousers.

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ramonatonedeaf t1_jefvvjw wrote

What’s the one for “don’t even try talking to me because I’m mega cranky and not going to respond nicely.” Black? Lol

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Few_Explanation1170 t1_jefycpo wrote

We did something extremely similar for a work picnic. The name tags were color coded, and people got to meet new colleagues and old friends. People felt comfortable and respected boundaries. It was great!

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TaKoss t1_jegh0ng wrote

Watch me just take every red bracelets I can get my hands on

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HUSband-Music-BJB t1_jegj18j wrote

What is the color for butt stuff? (Asking for a friend)

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VAWLTGHOST t1_jegscxy wrote

Goes to conference:

“Sorry I’m keeping my distance”

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artaig t1_jegu1id wrote

Back in the day your face communicated everything needed. Apparently so much screen time has made the art of reading faces a thing of the past.

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West_Possession660 t1_jegwblt wrote

“What… what the fuck happened to your elbows, guy?”

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KitteNlx t1_jeh31w2 wrote

Jelly bracelets are back dudes, lets party like it is 1999. Who wants to try and make a rainbow?

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Wage_slave t1_jeddqax wrote

Me and my bright red wristband, shit and pants combo are ready for this.

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Halogen12 t1_jeepv35 wrote

I think the shit part of your outfit will definitely keep people away. ;)

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leakmydata t1_jeew8ma wrote

Nobody should be hugging at a business conference ffs

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doctrbitchcraft t1_jeg76al wrote

I think this should be a thing everywhere, at all times.

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CranberryMcNuggo t1_jefpghy wrote

Additional tier for butthole fingering.

-but fr, being an overly sensitive pussy, this kind of thing might be really helpful for people who don’t do well with contact, even if it looked to be more of a Covid thing than a social thing.

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SkippySkep t1_jefxq44 wrote

Not great for people who are red green color blind... 🤔

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AlreadyBackLOL t1_jeesxfs wrote

People have become this socially inept they need don't touch me wrist bands?

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Spiritual-Ad-6412 t1_jeeky9t wrote

Fuck off is this serieus? Handhakes are not done? Hugs not oke fine i like my distance too. But handshakes come on. Handshakes are a universal age old sign of respect and good intent.

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Firamaster t1_jeemz1i wrote

Aka: please tell us your level of autism.

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warpedaeroplane t1_jed7jlq wrote

Please do not attend a conference in person if you aren’t willing to shake a few hands, and certainly not if you can’t be within 6 feet, if for no other reason than it really isn’t practical in your average convention center.

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Mektree7 t1_jedy58z wrote

When humans are afraid of a little intimacy, we have a problem.

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GuysMcFellas t1_jee2a83 wrote

Intimacy is for people your close with. Not random people at a conference.

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Mektree7 t1_jeelmvt wrote

Sexual yes. But hugs and handshakes shouldn’t be something you can’t handle

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GuysMcFellas t1_jeengdk wrote

Hugs from strangers? No thank you. Feel free to stay the hell out of my space. There's absolutely no reason to hug me unless if we're very close.

Handshakes? If I know you, or if I'm meeting you in a professional setting, ok.

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Mektree7 t1_jeeovje wrote

Very rarely there’s a reason to hug strangers anyway, but I’m a hugger and I believe we need to be closer to each other. I’ve never understood people who are put off by some friendly close-ness, but hey, i of course can respect it

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GuysMcFellas t1_jeepeld wrote

I'm a hugger with family, and close friends. Strangers don't need to touch me. I'll never understand the desire to touch people you don't know. Seems rude.

That includes putting a hand on my arm or shoulder. Hands to yourself.

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skooterM t1_jee1gnd wrote

Nobody is afraid of intimacy. Everyone is sick of the generally older white, male managers' tendency to invade your personal space.

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