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Unique-Public-8594 t1_j4sjib6 wrote

I feel so badly for these children. Unimaginable trauma for them. How do children survive this kind of thing?

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RollingOnShabbat t1_j4upqef wrote

Similar happened in my best friends family before our time. Kids were his cousins. All 3 are rock stars (not literally) and living their best lives two decades later. Kids are resilient as hell man.

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[deleted] t1_j4v0og5 wrote

Resilient? You're pretty clueless.

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TinyEmergencyCake t1_j4t0dkh wrote

I don't understand why their grandma can't take care of them

Why the downvotes? They have a grandma. Why do people think it's better they get tossed into the foster care system and likely separated rather than being placed with existing family

Stop brigading my comment you cowards and actually say something

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killereverdeen t1_j4t671k wrote

She’s sick. There is also the language barrier. They don’t speak Serbian, she doesn’t speak English. I wonder if her sister in Canada will take them in.

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TinyEmergencyCake t1_j4v6ylb wrote

Ok, I didn't know she was sick. speaking a different language a barrier to being placed with family? I'm not up to date on Ana's family tree so I'm not understanding why my comment has been brigaded

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iquitthebad t1_j4w1jvb wrote

Because your comment has nothing to do with the previous comment? No matter where the children are placed (with family or not), this situation is extremely traumatic, not because of where they are being placed but because their mother was killed and it might have been at the hands of the father.

Yes, speaking the same language as the family you are being placed with should be taken into consideration. Imagine going through something so traumatic and then all of a sudden you're placed in a home where no one speaks your language and you can't even communicate with anyone.

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Unique-Public-8594 t1_j4t0rlm wrote

I get what you mean.

When you get down to it, the family doesn’t owe the public an explanation though.

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CausticOptimist t1_j4t9d0o wrote

I don’t understand why you think that’s your affair

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TinyEmergencyCake t1_j4v6oyh wrote

Why the hostility

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CausticOptimist t1_j4vaxbg wrote

So you don’t want people to downvote you, you want them to tell you what the problem with your comment is, and when they do tell you, you call them hostile. You’re very curious about this total stranger’s motives for a person who’s completely incapable of self-examination. Or maybe that’s why.

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BiffNasty1234 t1_j4szr9u wrote

Kids are incredibly resilient. They’re also provided room to speak their truth, something many adults feel embarrassed to do or flat out can’t allow themselves to do

For a child to say “I’m not ok” it’s usually met with a positive, encouraging reaction.

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CausticOptimist t1_j4t9820 wrote

> Kids are incredibly resilient.

Where do all these fucked up adults come from then?

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BiffNasty1234 t1_j4t9m98 wrote

Many many many different walks of life. I’m not sure why you think bad eggs as adults are only that way because a parent was murdered….

8 billion people in this world, how many of them have never experienced a devastating event early in life?

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CausticOptimist t1_j4tas0a wrote

I don’t know what a “bad egg” is supposed to be, but children experience all kinds of trauma and that trauma impacts them throughout their lives in a myriad of ways.

Thinking children just bounce back from trauma and then become damaged later in life completely unrelated is ridiculous.

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BiffNasty1234 t1_j4tax78 wrote

You’re being obtuse. Of course you know what it means. All set with this conversation

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MonsieurReynard t1_j4t2ivg wrote

That's an oddly Panglossian take to be said about kids losing a parent at the hands of the other parent, or childhood trauma in general. "Speaking your truth" to a "positive reaction" won't bring back your murdered mother, or erase primal trauma.

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BiffNasty1234 t1_j4t8zur wrote

Tell me where I said it would…

Edit: cool. Just fucking downvote.

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Unique-Public-8594 t1_j4t03kn wrote

You don’t think this family history would be a difficult thing to carry through life?

You don’t think they will suffer from this loss?

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legumious t1_j4unhiw wrote

Life: Sucks

Someone: Hopeful platitude

Reddit: Yeah, that's something I can argue about. For the children.

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legumious t1_j4urfk9 wrote

In the face of tragedy, you can't let someone morally and ethically aligned with you go unreprimanded because you perceive them as demeaning. The comment did not imply the kids would turn out okay. It implied they would survive.

But you don't get a hit of that sweet moral outrage by agreeing with people.

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Unique-Public-8594 t1_j4uxdhs wrote

Is it “moral outrage” though?

One can be struck by the profound and tragic long term impact of what has happened and,

it might just be empathy.

Not moral outrage, not instigating a debate, not virtue signaling and not looking for karma, just sincere sorrow.

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legumious t1_j4v0ur8 wrote

Your question was "you don’t think they will suffer from this loss?" in response to someone reflecting on how some kids survive suffering. Your empathy feels toxic, and your question feels in bad faith.

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Linux-Is-Best t1_j4wxl0j wrote

Hi

A friendly reminder, that it is OK to disagree. It's OK to have a difference of opinion.

Let's not make this into something personal... It's also OK to walk away.

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Robw1970 t1_j4ykudy wrote

Honestly, you have a very valid point but it is almost impossible to reason with emotion. If one doesn't stay on the road of the majority you will surely be notified.

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BlaineTog t1_j4th6wy wrote

Kids can survive a lot, but they carry the scars with them all their lives.

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[deleted] t1_j4v0hbg wrote

Absolutely came to say this!

Kids who look like they're doing great, chances are, it's an act or they are overcompensating and avoiding dealing with stuff.

My sister's an overachiever for the wrong reasons. She's miserable.

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SheeEttin t1_j4uo4r7 wrote

>For a child to say “I’m not ok” it’s usually met with a positive, encouraging reaction.

Damn I wish the rest of us lived in your world, because I know very few people like that.

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DAMN-IT-FLAMINGO t1_j4t4fz3 wrote

“ …was also seen on surveillance video around 4 p.m. at a Home Depot in Rockland, where he purchased $450 worth of cleaning supplies, including mops, a bucket, and tarps.”

Wow. That’s a lot of cleaning supplies.

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Rats_In_Boxes t1_j4t6qc4 wrote

Not suspicious at all! Always need a good supply of tarps. You know, for uh, tarping.

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RedditSkippy t1_j4tgipo wrote

Yeah, that is a fuckton of bleach.

Also, why did he think he would get away with this. All those stores have cameras everywhere. He was supposed to be wearing a monitor.

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paddenice t1_j4uyeky wrote

It didn’t have gps tracking functionality enabled, authorities have said. I’m trying to understand why that would be the case, why even bother if it doesn’t immediately alert the authorities.

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RedditSkippy t1_j4v2q16 wrote

Yeah, then what’s the point of the monitor? Was it a fake monitor for low-risk offenders? I need to know more about this.

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paddenice t1_j4v2ytp wrote

Yeah I have the same questions. Unfortunately they haven’t disclosed why it didn’t have the gps functionality so we can only speculate.

My guess is that the art fraud (for which he was wearing the monitor in the first place) was a non-violent offense.

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RedditSkippy t1_j4v48ll wrote

Who would be doing that monitoring? The local department? State Police? FBI? Sounds like whoever was in charge of it didn’t care.

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ekac t1_j4uttgl wrote

He wore a surgical mask and gloves, and paid cash. They traced his cellphone data.

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RexianOG t1_j4uoi4x wrote

He also googled “how to dispose of a body”

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TherealDaily t1_j4tj7s9 wrote

It’s that panic-mode and by then it’s too late. The eye in the sky will catch them all. Not to mention everyone uses debit and there is another paper trail.. The whole story is horrible and the kids and community are the victims after the beautiful mom 😳

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CanIShowYouMyLizardz t1_j4vbfnr wrote

You’ve obviously never coated your mother in laws bathroom with projectile vomit after trying to beat your step father in the milk challenge.

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YellowSea11 t1_j4tn77t wrote

It's a terrible situation , but there's one inescapable takeaway I never thought I'd have to say aloud. When you're being perp-walked on network television for murdering your wife: don't smile.

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Elementium t1_j4s9e4p wrote

Yeah.. sounds about right. Dude looks like pedo-Dennis from it's always sunny.

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RevengencerAlf t1_j4t7x8n wrote

I for one am completely surprised by this turn of events /s

In all seriousness this is awful, yet on brand for a guy who tried and failed to do a shitty art scam and I feel bad for the kids. Hopefully they get to stay together but this is going to be a nightmare they'll be stuck with no matter what.

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RedditSkippy t1_j4th9dn wrote

He was pretty much my suspect from the get-go. Ana had a work emergency on NYD and had to fly to DC?!? Yeah, that’s suspicious right there. Also, it took him three days to report her missing, and her work noticed it before he did? Yeah, way sus.

How he could do that to his kids, I have no idea.

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CosmicQuantum42 t1_j4ukriw wrote

You know you’re sus when your weak alibi only works if you convince investigators that you casually violated your home arrest from an unrelated crime.

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ViewNo4267 t1_j4sgchz wrote

It's tragic the kids lost their mom, but I'm so glad they can get away from this monster.

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dontcomeback82 t1_j4uhrs4 wrote

> The prosecution also pointed out that Brian told police he went to his mother’s house in Swampscott on New Year’s Day, but that it took him longer than it should have because he got lost.

You got lost going to your Moms? What a terrible alibi

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fthemcars t1_j4v2n7f wrote

He took a detour to dump the body in the Lynn Woods Reservation

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eastwardarts t1_j4ui9pb wrote

All the women you know with abusive partners/exes are having a really bad week right now.

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TheToneKing t1_j4tj379 wrote

Terrible, unforgivable sin

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Tink1024 t1_j4uwlaz wrote

Wish I could say I was surprised but we all saw this coming. I hope Ana is at peace…

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jaycarter617 t1_j4v2ca8 wrote

It feels like the Chris Watts story all over again 🤦🏾‍♂️.

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past_his_prime t1_j4v6it1 wrote

It takes a whole other level of evil to kill your children's mother. Damn!

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WhoBroughtTheCoolKid t1_j4v8qvp wrote

His google searches alone being read out loud made me want to barf.

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drhardway t1_j4tzs8l wrote

48hrs will have on tv soon.

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d3fc0n545 t1_j4vrwk4 wrote

This one can be solved by a lay man. He made it very easy.

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fthemcars t1_j4v2jfq wrote

He dumped her in Lynn Woods Reservation.

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Lilslugga2002 t1_j4veq55 wrote

So how long before this turns into a Netflix miniseries?

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Hoosac_Love t1_j4vrsyc wrote

It's amazing these idiots don't learn that their google searches will hang you.At least do your "how long does it take a dead body to smell" at the public library computer.

The stupidity is un ending.

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pninardor t1_j4wsrpw wrote

I was watching a video clip from 7 news. What's wrong with the side of his face? Does he have a tooth abscess?

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bensonr2 t1_j514zt9 wrote

What doesn't quite add up for me is he was so clumsy as to be searching google for how to dispose of a body; yet they can't find her.

I would think someone that dumb wouldn't do that good of job actually disposing of her.

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Hoosac_Love t1_j4v3e5j wrote

This guy is going to make some 300 pound gorrilla real happy at Souza Barankoswki.

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Capable-Still2060 t1_j4tgqom wrote

David Plotz once said "every marriage is foreign country".

Until the facts come out, we just don't know why.

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Capable-Still2060 t1_j4tx85u wrote

omfg. obv's he's guilty. i meant like the motive. and their entire history with one another. the oj trial was a domestic violence case, turned into a Referendum on the LA County PD. this case is already in national media's hands. all i'm sayin.

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Capable-Still2060 t1_j4vjxzp wrote

the $450 home depot bill for "cleaning supplies" left little doubt(i'd say leave none, but i want viable jurors if it comes to that.)

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Unique-Public-8594 t1_j4wk1ga wrote

And possibly stealing money from his father’s estate that should rightfully have gone to his mother…

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