what_comes_after_q t1_j6jb5ij wrote on January 30, 2023 at 7:06 PM

Reply to comment by swoldier_force in Husband Of MA Mom Accused Of Killing 3 Children Asks She Is Forgiven by cailinloesch

I am married and still not an expert, but I do know this guy needs professional help. Having your partner do some so unimaginably horrible creates a conflicting image of someone who you love dearly, and your brain can’t rationalize these two incomparable facts. He wants to forgive because he still sees her as who she was before this tragedy - probably the most important cornerstone of his life that he would do anything for. Reconciling how someone you know like that can do something so out of character is going to take lots of therapy to work through and unpack.

AbsentThatDay2 t1_j6kt0te wrote on January 31, 2023 at 12:57 AM

This isn't something therapy is going to fix. The guy is just going to suffer just like anyone else would that was in his shoes. There's no philosophical do-over, something terrible happened to him. You can't understand emotional pain enough that it doesn't hurt like hell. There's no theory of life that will make everything better. He's going to hurt, and some day when he doesn't hurt anymore he'll miss it.