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BovaDesnuts t1_j80aumh wrote

>Is this an offensive phrase or something?

Yes and no, and also yes. It's offensive to hardcore Christians on account of it taking the lords name in vain. It's Also offensive to hard-core atheists, who don't want any mention of God ever anywhere even once. It's also also an offensive phrase to people who feel that references to Christianity are not inclusive and have no place in public. But any normal person doesn't give a shit.

>What can I do in this situation?

>I have spoken to our son about not saying those words in school but at home is okay since they are not bad words. However he keeps getting in trouble and comes home visibly upset and sad.

Letting him say it at home is a mistake. He needs to learn the standards before he can break it, and making enemies so early in your education is a mistake, especially if he's in a public program and will continue to be. Teachers talk and pass their biases all the way up.

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new_Australis OP t1_j80c63e wrote

>Letting him say it at home is a mistake

I agree with this statement however it is our belief that those are not bad words that being said we have to teach him where and when he can say certain things.

>Teachers talk and pass their biases all the way up.

This is his mother's fear. That the teacher will hold a grudge against him and give him a hard time all around.

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BovaDesnuts t1_j80ci96 wrote

>I agree with this statement however it is our belief that those are not bad words that being said we have to teach him where and when he can say certain things.

It's easy. He needs to understand and accept the base rules of polite conversation before he can break them. And you can be straightforward about that. "Hey, other people don't like this and if you're gonna be saying it out of habit, we can't let you say it here, either".

>Teachers talk and pass their biases all the way up.

>This is his mother's fear. That the teacher will hold a grudge against him and give him a hard time all around.

Not just this teacher. It'll follow up to high school and compound over the years, in all likelihood.

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BovaDesnuts t1_j80guy2 wrote

>It's not their religion, why should it be their problem ?

Plenty of things in your life are your problem when they're not your fault. Thus is no different.

>If a teacher sees a child as an enemy for having a different religion, or non religious, upbringing that should be on them to get over it.

Very cool. Unfortunately, idealism doesn't work

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BovaDesnuts t1_j80hi5c wrote

No amount of "should" unruins your life.

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BovaDesnuts t1_j80if1e wrote

Charlie Hebdo thought so too. How'd that go? If you're willing to die for it, go for it. But don't torture your kids over it.

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BovaDesnuts t1_j80julp wrote

>this is about a toddler saying "oh my god" not a racist magazine getting attacked by abject extremists

The parallel being that no amount of "should" protects you from reality. People do people things. What she'll do is tell the next grade that the kid is a serious discipline issue, resulting in them being watched more, getting caught more, and being punished more.

>you are comparing a teacher for young children to Islamic extremism, albeit I won't argue that we don't have Christian extremists here ; I don't actually think this is a case of that.

It's entirely possible that's not the issue. There's a few other anti-religious or anti-offense sentiments that could be driving the issue.

>the hill I'm willing to die on is that atheists and their children who don't want to participate in religion & its rules should be safe to do so freely, and the teacher is welcome to a litany of churches to practice their faith in the free & appropriate space as well.

Are you willing to damn your kids too? Good. Damn your own. And stay out of other people's lives.

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