I think it’s definitely worth it in your case. Hudson County has among highest percentage of non-car owning households in the country.

Even if you don’t like it, it sounds like you don’t have much to lose. You make enough $ to afford a decent lifestyle here and you don’t even have to quit your jobs to move here. And your partner could probably get a decent pay bump if they decide to get an NYC-based job.

Worst case scenario is you decide to move when your lease is up and you’re out a few thousand $ in moving expenses.

Better to experiment now than later if you’re thinking of adopting a kid.

You probably won’t have a “true” NYC experience while living here, but it’s close enough given your circumstances. Keep in mind that you won’t even have easy access to NYC at all if you move anywhere else.