Submitted by 3peatguy95 t3_z8cozc in jerseycity
Im meeting a girl for the first time tomorrow for drinks, I’m looking for a bar that’s casual. I was thinking maybe a dive bar? Don’t know if that’ll be too casual for a 1st date but looking for suggestions
I’ve been to dullboy and to me it wasn’t a casual bar, more of spot for a 2nd date
Will we be able to have a conversation or is the music too loud?
Hudson hound
Trick will be finding one you can actually hear each other in.
Anyway, the Pet Shop is actually not bad for casual drinks.
Iron Monkey has a bunch of different little places you can kind of tuck yourself away in.
Archers is far from a dive, but has a nice small bar and good cocktails.
O' Haras is a classic standard pub. Ed and Mary's is probably as friendly a place as you could possibly find, and you'll likely have 4 other interesting characters to talk with/listen to while there. I just talked myself into Ed and Mary's. Go there.
If you want to go more casual than dull boy, try Petshop, Keyhole, or O’Haras.
Based on your comments, I'd suggest Wurstbar as a happy medium. Not as fancy as a Dullboy, but not as loud and divey as Key Hole/Pet Shop/Lucky 7.
LoFi, Fox & Crow
Seconding Low-Fi
Barcade is fun if you prefer to have some sort of activity involved
Cellar 335
Wurstbar
You should be fine on a weekday, there are booths and a couch in the back farther away from the bar, and there’s a whole outside space if it’s not too cold!
Loud as fuck though. Really tough to carry on a conversation.
It has decent ambiance for a date but you’re right it’s not that casual.
Pet Shop or Lucky 7 in Downtown.
LoFi or The Hutton in the Heights.
The bar area of the Archer (downtown) if you want cocktails. IMO more of a second date place if you get a booth.
That’s fair. But some people might prefer a casual activity based date so I figured it might be worth mentioning
The Hutton and LoFi are my goto places in the Heights when I get lucky enough to match with someone local on the hellish dating apps. They are perfect for a first date.
Yeah. I used to love Barcade but good god the last few times I’ve gone there I felt like I was in some weird torture chamber between the cacophonous music and random people screaming really loudly at games they don’t need to be yelling about. That’s the place you go to if the date is tanking so you can just LOUD yourself out of it 😂
Nice lighting, great cider, warm and toasty, plus poutine to share!
Left Bank Burger Bar
I'd avoid Dullboy, the Archer, Barcade, if you want to be able to hear each other. I've gone on more than one date at Pet Shop and was able to have a conversation. Either the couch in the back, or downstairs at the wine bar, are the quieter spots.
A bar at a restaurant may be better for conversation, with respect to volume, ex: White Star? And then if things go well you can grab a more substantial dinner. No good for right now, but if you still need this info in the summertime then Smorgasbar is fantastic for this. (And then Dullboy becomes an option too, if, and only if, you can sit outside.)
I know it means I'm getting old but I really don't know what the point is of cranking the volume up so much people have to shout at each other. I go to bars when I want to just hang out and talk with whoever I'm with.
Don't go to pet shop, way too loud to have a conversation. Had to leave and go to a different bar with a group of friends because we literally couldn't hear each other talk
Satis wine bar
pet shop for sure. casual enough for a first date but not too divey. good selection of drinks and snacks
First date? You should skip that. Ask her father if you can marry her. Dating is overrated. There is a divorce lawyer close by, divorces only cost $399.
I’m kidding, get a reservation at The Rooftop
Park tavern ! Even if it goes bad , you can het a great cheeseburger
Especially at 6pm on a Wednesday, or during F'n brunch. Hell, there are a few coffee spots that are uncomfortably loud.
I was in London recently and very few places were playing loud music when I went in, it was amazing.
Junto attic bar is classy, quiet (only allows parties up to 4 people), and only seats about 30 people. Great aesthetic, drinks aren’t expensive, and more off the beaten path. Highly recommend for a first date but beware is first come first serve with no reservations.
Archer is great!
Pet Shop and South House both have good date first date vibes.
Lucky 7s if she's into dive bars, but I wouldn't go there for a first date on a Friday or Saturday night.
The bar at Edward's if you're feeling classy, but you'll need to be early or late if you're going on the weekend.
I don't really dig the vibe at Archer or Dullboy for a first date. They're more second or third date places.
Drinks are $15 at Junto.
Can you explain? Not saying you are wrong I’m just curious what people think makes a bar casual vs not. I’m used to only thinking about that word in terms of dress code.
Could you explain what makes the vibes different and more second date like? I am just curious.
might as well go to the sky bar for the better views at those prices as long as the upstairs isnt in club mode yet its super chill
unless its an Alt chick or super super mellow girl not exactly the best first date spot for most. My type for sure ...but most probably not lol
Agreed, if you’re trying to impress the lady then probably not the best place haha. Definitely a good spot to pregame or catch a game. I live with my gf and we have been together for 6 years so first date ideas have left my mind.
Archer and Dullboy are a little darker, especially in winter. They feel a little more intimate to me than the other bars.
I mean, at the end of the day, your mileage may vary and it depends how you're feeling and how things are progressing. The best first date spot is the place where you feel most comfortable and can make a connection.
Ed & Mary's, over near Hamilton Park. It's a dive with a big beer menu, but unlike a lot of dives (I'm thinking of Lucky 7 and the like) they also have wine, cocktails, and a full bar, so if you don't know what your date likes it's a good option. They also have great, simple food if you get peckish. I almost hesitate to call it a dive because it's very clean and comfortable, but "dive" is pretty clearly the ambience they're aiming for.
Staff is awesome, and highly likely to make up for any gaps in conversation. The vibe is something like casually intelligent dirtbag leftist. I've seen a bartender cuss out an athlete on TV for sucking shit at the sports game that was on, then pivot and air his concerns about Universal Basic Income being a one-size-fits-all solution when it comes to minors, dependents, the mentally ill, and victims of domestic abuse.
If you're looking for something closer to the pedestrian boulevard and/or less casual, I'd say Hudson Hound. Not cheap, but if you're just getting drinks it's doable. Cocktails are unique and beautiful, the old wood and furnishings provide a real nice atmosphere, and again, great staff.
That makes sense!
If you're looking downtown, maybe Light Horse Tavern? Elevated chill vibes.
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Pet shop is good.