Ok...

I guess we are happy that you enjoy living in a walled garden. I'm not partial to being told what to do, how to do it and when I'm allowed to do it with hardware I have paid money for.

To address your points.

1. I'm not in high school anymore, when I was I hated trendy shit and that continues to this day. Sure apple designs some cool looking stuff, and? You get to pay a hefty premium for that look, want more RAM in your MacBook? Bend over, here it comes again. I want my tech to fit the needs I have and be the solution to my use case, aesthetics be damned. If want prestige I'll wear a Rolex or Omega watch, drive a GTR or a Porsche, not to impress others, but because they make me happy. The second I care what I look like on the squat rack is the day I shit a chicken.
2. Your phone "knows" what to do because you have stayed in their garden, and taken a sandpaper dildo dry in your wallet for the privilege. Good luck using their products outside of their garden, they cripple it so much its a joke.
3. Of course they don't support the same tech in other headphones, they haven't had time to copy it yet. Give em a few years and they will have all the 2022 tech in their 2025 lineup.
4. Utility? For the same $400 I personally would rather have bought a pair of DT770's for music and some QC45's for ANC, If I needed ANC. If I didn't need ANC, Sundara at $299, you could drop $50 over the Max for the HiFiMan HE6se V2 or bump up $100 more to get the Edition XS and tear the ever loving ass out of apples "great sounding sound". If I want consumable sound, I'll buy some pixel buds pro or galaxy buds, at half the price of the Max.

PS, apple sucks. I'm in IT and I actually had another grown ass man, who was an IT professional, tell me that apples just work because of "magic".